help me gain self assurance

[LIKEASOMBOOOADEEEE]

Can anyboadee help me get some self assurance i know this might be the wrong place to ask cause you all have more or less the same problems but i say it's still worth the try

The problem is that i lost the self-confidence i once had. before being like this i was the most outgoing person ever and people thought i was the funniest kid ever. Now that i'm shy i have lost confidence in what comes out of my mouth though i know i still have great comedy and people skills. I am now moderatly funny but if i tell a joke and don't get the reaction i want from people or it comes out wrong i'll start to question my skills :S so can anybody that can give me some words of self assurance i can tell myself when i'm in these situations.

I also have some trouble looking people in the eyes but i know it'll get fixed when i fix the latter; i know it cause i've fixed it in the past (the trick is to look them in the white part of one eye... it's so effective it makes ppl look away but try not to stare ppl down you'll seem like a douche.)

 

[Feathers]

Well, self confidence can come and go, with energy levels or achievements... As you achieve things that are important to you, really meaningful things, your confidence will improve too...

Think about it: does your life or the fate of Universe depend on one sentence or one joke or one reaction from a person or a few?

You can think of some happy memory or the time when you laughed a lot with your friends...

Even as you write that, you are pretty funny (in a good way!! ) and on this forum you are good because you can even hang out with people and tell jokes!! (Some people here actually can't, at least at this moment...) I can tell jokes too and sometimes people just don't get them lol!! (Even if it's reeaally funny!! lol!!) I just think those people may have a really bad taste of humor, lol!!

Sense of humor is soo highly individual, different people find different things funny... We had a classmate who told the most horrible jokes, and we had to laugh sorta at him (but in a good way, we liked him as a person) because he found them so funny!!
Maybe it's good to find people who can appreciate your unique brand of humor!! (Even he found some quite gorgeous girls who really liked his humor!!!)

As for looking at people - maybe try to look at the way they are dressed, or look at the hair, or where they are going, or try to figure out if they'd be a good friend to talk to or...?

 

[just wanna b normal]

stop caring what people think! you know you can look up the questions you have on google & you will get your answer. imo