Richey
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Ok, so out of all the progress I have made over the years, this is the one thing I still really struggle at, often I become tongue tied and that just leads to feeling angry at myself as the shift goes on which leads to being passive, withdrawn and sometimes jealous. Currently I work in a group, nice people, they all banter very well, sharp tongues, are playful, super quick witted relaxed, use sarcasm etc...
I notice myself being too self conscious, too slow to react or when I do react to a jokey comment I either mess it up or respond with something short and lame, or it makes no sense...
One thing I notice in others is that they seem to have low inhibitions, it is as if they drink alcohol or they are just naturally very relaxed and grew up feeling very confident....
There is this one person at work who jokes with all the managers, shows off, always knows the right things to say and it is just incredible, it's as if they were given some magic potion to unlock fun and wit....
The reason I care about this, is that the people who are good at this seem to progress into higher roles at work, because they come across as more likeable and approachable...more importantly it means they get on well with co-workers and that seems very important...maybe it's genetic, maybe it's their environmental conditioning growing up that made them good with people.
So at the moment I write down long lists of ice-breakers, quotes from comedies that seem universally funny, I read lots of books that have good wordplay by witty writers..
I rehearse quotes in my car, I rehearse and I relax, I try my best to feel mindful and in the moment..but some people just seem naturally relaxed and fun...
But in the heat of the moment, often you can't use a lot of those lines or quotes....
Has anyone around here progressed in this area at work and if so, how did you do it??
This issue is ruining my life.
I notice myself being too self conscious, too slow to react or when I do react to a jokey comment I either mess it up or respond with something short and lame, or it makes no sense...
One thing I notice in others is that they seem to have low inhibitions, it is as if they drink alcohol or they are just naturally very relaxed and grew up feeling very confident....
There is this one person at work who jokes with all the managers, shows off, always knows the right things to say and it is just incredible, it's as if they were given some magic potion to unlock fun and wit....
The reason I care about this, is that the people who are good at this seem to progress into higher roles at work, because they come across as more likeable and approachable...more importantly it means they get on well with co-workers and that seems very important...maybe it's genetic, maybe it's their environmental conditioning growing up that made them good with people.
So at the moment I write down long lists of ice-breakers, quotes from comedies that seem universally funny, I read lots of books that have good wordplay by witty writers..
I rehearse quotes in my car, I rehearse and I relax, I try my best to feel mindful and in the moment..but some people just seem naturally relaxed and fun...
But in the heat of the moment, often you can't use a lot of those lines or quotes....
Has anyone around here progressed in this area at work and if so, how did you do it??
This issue is ruining my life.
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