Happy feeling does not last
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Its a good thing that you do sometimes feel happy. There are many times when I used to feel the breif heights and the monumental lows. For me until very recently I just always felt sort of neutral, uncaring, indiffernent towards everything and everyone. Maybe that was my brain's response to usually feeling pretty low I dont know. But after a while I hated that sort of wrinse and repeat lifestye where each day was practically identical to the last in the things I would do, feel and expect. In a sense it was easy, I knew what to do, knew the limits of what could go wrong and avoided unessecary pain. This month though I have been trying to think of the nervous moments more like opportunities, its tough going though. But perhaps, just maybe with a bit of luck my relentless surpression of my inner ulta-pessimistic voice will result in a change. I have tried the uncaring aproach to life and grown tired of it, I just need to learn to not care so much the thoughts of others about myself. This sounds very selfish, but I think ive had enough.
mesc000
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exactly, the times i've felt really happy was when I stopped focusing on the people around me. It was weird, because it was sort of like zoning out and being able get out of your head, where you existed only on reactions, or whatever first popped into your head.
Sounds weird but those are times when I feel really good, but then I kinda revert back to my anti-social self again- like its out of my control.
Sounds weird but those are times when I feel really good, but then I kinda revert back to my anti-social self again- like its out of my control.
Flaming_Badger
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It is the anxiety of thinking that the good times wont last that makes you slip back into depression. We've all been there, things are going well and then it suddenly pops into your head that it wont last and the spiral downwards starts...
Thing is, you just have to accept that we will slip in and out of depression, the good times won't last - but neither will the bad times. Just try and keep the good times going as long as possible, but convince yourself not to let fear of the bad times cut short the fun part.
Thing is, you just have to accept that we will slip in and out of depression, the good times won't last - but neither will the bad times. Just try and keep the good times going as long as possible, but convince yourself not to let fear of the bad times cut short the fun part.
Cruddy
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I can totally relate to this. Whenever I start feeling really elated I just know its a matter of time before I have to start hearing that voice of negativity and defeat in my head. But Im learning to enjoy the happy times. For me Ive found that certain foods really contribute heavily to my thoughts. I have food intolerances so whenever I eat glutinous foods or sugar I will be depressed in 2 days. If I eat mainly raw vegetables, nuts, fish and fruit I can maintain a happy equalibrium for longer periods. Once I start eating junk food I go back to being antisocial. I do think our food is hurting our brains and our lives alot. Everybody seems to have a chemical imbalance of some sort.
I find when Im super happy alot of good things happen to me and people flock to me like Im the most popular person alive. Its weird and a bit unnerving. Its like a light switch has been turned on and then it later goes off.
I find when Im super happy alot of good things happen to me and people flock to me like Im the most popular person alive. Its weird and a bit unnerving. Its like a light switch has been turned on and then it later goes off.
kuhtreen
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I know EXACTLY what you mean. Whenever I feel happy and optimistic, I actually fear it a little, because I know it's just a matter of time before I'm down in the dumps again. I try to tell myself that it will last, but there's always that doubt in the back of my mind that keeps me from holding on to my happiness....
akele
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i've started to get over that, finally. my psychologist told me i could think of a time i felt secure and happy, and i could go around with that same feeling. now i do a kind of meditation thing on it. whenever i get a comforting feeling, like something reminds me of my childhood or my mother, i stay in that feeling. i cant quite explain how, but it works. and now i go around in my own little bubble of contentment, not letting the mood of other people change my mood.
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akele
if you look up sites on neurolinguistic programming you will get some good strategies, if you're interested. they are interesting, c reative and practical ideas which work within minutes.
akele