Whosthatguy
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First of all, hi to everyone. I'm not exactly new here, I had a previous account a while ago for which I've forgotten the password. I'm more of a lurker now I guess. But I've got a situation here that I really want to get to the bottom of, and I hope you guys can help me reason it out.
I've started dating this guy who turned out to be a bit of a ****. (Just so you guys know, I'm a guy too.)
Before I get into it, there's something I need to mention.
My previous boyfriend used to be a gold digger, he knew that I was well off and he had the intention of using me, until I had enough and refused to give him what he wanted and for that reason he threatened to break up with me. After that, I knew he was just a user and I ended up dumping him.
I really wanted to get this story across to the guy I'm currently dating so that;
1. If he turns out to be a user, he has no luck so he might as well stop seeing me.
2. He becomes more careful of what he requests from me in order not to give out a bad impression.
Because I knew that he isn't well off.
There was this one time he sends me a music video on whatsapp about this girl awaiting her rich dads salary so that he could spoil her.
I took that as a chance to bring up the story of my ex-boyfriend the gold digger.
Gladly, he apologised.
I thought from then on, he got the message...
Not really...
Very early at the dating stage he asks me to buy him clothes and shoes as a gift for a type of holiday in our culture which was coming up soon, but he wanted me to take him shopping beforehand.
I said yes, but then later I changed my mind. My best friend told me not to give him what he wants, and to pretend I already bought him another gift that I thought he might like, and I decided to give him the gift during the holiday not beforehand because it was more appropriate.
His response was "F**k you." I got a little angry for him saying that, but he said it was a joke.
Anyway, it seemed that he accepted the fact that I won't take him shopping for clothes & shoes, which was good.
Later, once more, he asks me to buy him a card so he could apply for internet data package on his phone.
Even though it was cheap, it freaked me out. I started sharing once again my experience with my ex-boyfriend who was a gold-digger, and I told him that I was hoping he didn't turn out that way. Granted, I came across a bit dramatic.
Instead of showing understanding and apologising, he goes mad.
Notice at that point he had the presumption that I'm rich and I can give him what he wants.
I also admittedly had the presumption that he's poor but I never really noticeably portrayed him as such.
This whole thing is really complicated, and I'm not sure what to think of it. We've had a lot of arguments later about this but now we're back together.
I talked to one of his female friends about this and she seemed to be more understanding than him.
He's changed his attitude and never asks me for things anymore and I think that his female friend might have talked some sense out of him.
The reason why I want to figure this out is because somehow I get the feeling that he still thinks it's my fault. As if right now he's the one giving me a chance, rather than the other way around.
Please share your opinion on this, anyone, I'd appreciate it...
I've started dating this guy who turned out to be a bit of a ****. (Just so you guys know, I'm a guy too.)
Before I get into it, there's something I need to mention.
My previous boyfriend used to be a gold digger, he knew that I was well off and he had the intention of using me, until I had enough and refused to give him what he wanted and for that reason he threatened to break up with me. After that, I knew he was just a user and I ended up dumping him.
I really wanted to get this story across to the guy I'm currently dating so that;
1. If he turns out to be a user, he has no luck so he might as well stop seeing me.
2. He becomes more careful of what he requests from me in order not to give out a bad impression.
Because I knew that he isn't well off.
There was this one time he sends me a music video on whatsapp about this girl awaiting her rich dads salary so that he could spoil her.
I took that as a chance to bring up the story of my ex-boyfriend the gold digger.
Gladly, he apologised.
I thought from then on, he got the message...
Not really...
Very early at the dating stage he asks me to buy him clothes and shoes as a gift for a type of holiday in our culture which was coming up soon, but he wanted me to take him shopping beforehand.
I said yes, but then later I changed my mind. My best friend told me not to give him what he wants, and to pretend I already bought him another gift that I thought he might like, and I decided to give him the gift during the holiday not beforehand because it was more appropriate.
His response was "F**k you." I got a little angry for him saying that, but he said it was a joke.
Anyway, it seemed that he accepted the fact that I won't take him shopping for clothes & shoes, which was good.
Later, once more, he asks me to buy him a card so he could apply for internet data package on his phone.
Even though it was cheap, it freaked me out. I started sharing once again my experience with my ex-boyfriend who was a gold-digger, and I told him that I was hoping he didn't turn out that way. Granted, I came across a bit dramatic.
Instead of showing understanding and apologising, he goes mad.
Notice at that point he had the presumption that I'm rich and I can give him what he wants.
I also admittedly had the presumption that he's poor but I never really noticeably portrayed him as such.
This whole thing is really complicated, and I'm not sure what to think of it. We've had a lot of arguments later about this but now we're back together.
I talked to one of his female friends about this and she seemed to be more understanding than him.
He's changed his attitude and never asks me for things anymore and I think that his female friend might have talked some sense out of him.
The reason why I want to figure this out is because somehow I get the feeling that he still thinks it's my fault. As if right now he's the one giving me a chance, rather than the other way around.
Please share your opinion on this, anyone, I'd appreciate it...
