Getting the Job

[xSleepy]

I tried posting this before but i guess it didnt work...

ok i have a REALLY good chance of getting into the subway restaurant. the thing is that im super nervous. itll be my very first job. and im terrified of working so close to people and having to "small talk" with them and be friendly and stuff. i already have bad anxiety just thinking about it.
and plus, im not sure if ill need to do an interview for this one, but i had to lie on my resume and say i had work experience when i really dont. its just that im desperate for ANY job, and no one would hire me before. im just nervous about getting my story right.

but im more nervous about having to be with all those people. its scary to think about. what if they wanna hang out after work or something??? i dont wanna do that. but i am excited believe or not. cause now ill be able to keep my house and beable to pay bills. and get out of my house for at least 8 hours a day.

but im nervous as hell. scared really. can anyone relate?

 

[recluse]

I think everyone can relate to this, even non-social phobics feel nervous in new work places. You'll be fine once you get past the initial stage of familiarising yourself with your new enviroment. Good luck

 

[xSleepy]

ya, i know everyone else goes through it. its just better when i here about it, lol. but thanks for the reply, it does make me feel better.
and im stilllll waiting for the guy to call me.
*cross fingers*

 

[Vancouver]

Oh man, there goes the dishonesty card! It's okay every once in a while, but when that shit starts piling up, so does the anxiety. Think about it - it's more to remember, more to have to cover for... yada yada.

But that's still awesome. It's scary at first, but once you get used to it, you'll probably be less anxious/nervous on a regular basis. Plus, I bet soon enough you'll be hanging out with a ton of people after work without giving it a second thought. Rock on \m/

 

[DisgustingPete]

ya, i know everyone else goes through it. its just better when i here about it, lol. but thanks for the reply, it does make me feel better.
and im stilllll waiting for the guy to call me.
*cross fingers*

how would you feel if the elves did this to you:

 

[Chriswinnipeg]

Hello Sleeping Beauty. I can totally relate to what you are going through. I actaully had a job interview today also for a job I really really really want to have. Likewise, I worry so much about not getting the job and by not being to impressive during the interview. It's very stressfull and you're so full of tension just waiting about the outcome whether you will be hired or not also. It's also hard when you start and are new at the job because you don't really know what to expect and how great this job is for shy people like us. You get all worried and terrified because you are heading to the unknown and don't know exactly what to expect and how much socialization you have to do. I also worry also about coworkers wanting to hang out after work??? I just wish you the absolute best of luck about all of this and hope you get hired.

 

[xSleepy]

thanks everyone. your replies really have helped me and it makes me feel better to know that im REALLY NOT ALONE.
and the good thing is that i did get the job! and i didnt even have to do an interview! whoo hoo. i havent started yet, but i go in tomorrow and get introduced and stuff. probably get my ugly uniform and meet some people.

so thanks again for your great replies! except for DisgustingPete....what the hell was that about??...weirdoo :roll:

 

[Butterflies]

thanks everyone. your replies really have helped me and it makes me feel better to know that im REALLY NOT ALONE.
and the good thing is that i did get the job! and i didnt even have to do an interview! whoo hoo. i havent started yet, but i go in tomorrow and get introduced and stuff. probably get my ugly uniform and meet some people.

so thanks again for your great replies! except for DisgustingPete....what the hell was that about??...weirdoo :roll:

Yeah - and I think we have more than one weirdo with us.

 

[xSleepy]

OMG i feel like im gonna barf! my manager wants me to be a shift supervisor!!!!!
hes putting me in charge of people!!!! OMGGGGGOOOOOODDDD. im scared to death now. he said im gonna have to be TOUGH with people!

i cant be tough, im too scared to be tough. i can not beleive that thats my job! he said ill be trained of course, but still. i dont know how im gonna get up the courage to tell people what to do and how to do them.

what if i tell someone to do something and they just say..."no"
then what the hell am i gonna do? i cant yell at them. i dont like yelling.

OH GOD, THIS IS MY WORST NIGHTMARE COMING TRUUUEEEE!!!! 8O 8O 8O

 

[DisgustingPete]

yeah, give it a shot. If it doesn't work out, you can always do porn...

 

[xSleepy]

is that really aloud? could i really just quite after a few months if i really reallly dont like it? i thought i would have to wait for at least 5 or 6 months before i could quite.

but i swear, i am terrified of starting my new job. all the pressure. being in charge of people. i cant stop thinking about it. its almost the worst job that someone with social anxiety could have.

or my manager could just realize that the job really is too much for me and then he could change my position. but right now im stuck where i am. ive already signed papers and everything.
ill see what happens then.

 

[Doomed2Die]

I dont know about anyone else but my anxiety mostly fades when im focused on work.

Um, though admittedly that is a rather bad job for a SA sufferer :/. Shift supervisor, hopefully that involves little work if people are doing things right ^^. For me anyways, supervising can be fairly easy stuff and allows for more freedom than otherwise.

 

[xSleepy]

you supervise? how is that going for you? was it kinda scary at first?

 

[MinkyBoo]

OMG!!! Im scared for you SLeepingBeauty.... 8O 8O 8O
i would hate that job, instructing ppl how to do thier job, and what if i told them to do something that was a mistake?? 8O hope you survive thru it....

 

[xSleepy]

thank you...someone who knows what im gonna be going through. i dont even start training till tomorrow and im already sick to my stomach. i couldnt sleep last night. its only 7AM right now and i should be sleeping still!!

but i would really love to hear more encouraging things. i really need help getting through this job. some positive feed back would be nice

 

[Redrascal]

Do your best ......nuf said

 

[flake__]

Just think, you have power!! You get to tell people what to do, this could really help your SA actually and boost your confidence once you see people following your orders even though you are terrified of them! Could lessen the terror if you know what i mean.

You may get the odd lazy git but just think as an SA person you will naturally be very polite at giving orders lol, so you will not be to blame if someone doesn't do what you say. Just try asking again calmly, if they don't then report them.