gay and SAD
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lyricalliaisons
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That's definitely the same in my case. I'm always afraid of what people would say or think because people are so judgmental & it's part of the reason I avoid social interaction. I really don't handle it, other than by not talking to people, which I know isn't good.
hey jake, not you're definitely not the only one. i think i wouldn't have SAD if i wasn't gay.
do you at least have some gay friends? i would love to have gay friends but can't even achieve that. i live in a relationship but none of the people from my uni know about it. so i'm kind of living two lives. and both worlds are completely separated. i hate living a lie.
do you at least have some gay friends? i would love to have gay friends but can't even achieve that. i live in a relationship but none of the people from my uni know about it. so i'm kind of living two lives. and both worlds are completely separated. i hate living a lie.
I am gay and have SAD but i don't think being gay is in any way related to it. I dont tell people mainly because i dont feel the need to, it would just give people another opportunity to stereotype. I really don't see not telling people as living some kind of lie or having a constant barrier up. I just dont think sexual preference is that important, but thats just me.
Jake123
Banned
That's extremely naive. Consider yourself lucky if you weren't raised by parents that would literally kill you if they found out. It's not a "preference", by the way. A preference implies you chose it. I get girls constantly trying to be "closer" with me, guys who I wish I could be with but it's impossible because they're straight, and so on. If I had a boyfriend I would want to have a boyfriend, I wouldn't want to pretend it's a "friend" just to not upset everyone around me, not hide it like you're implying just because it's "not important"... lol... it's very important. Dunno what world you live in but it's not the same as liking the color blue instead of green. You don't "need" to tell anyone, but they're gonna get suspicious sooner or later or ask things, and would you like it if a person you've grown close with happens to be a complete bigot and cuts off all communication because you're a "faggot"?... The world isn't a place of sunshine and acceptance.
Maybe you should re-evaluate why you developed SAD... I know that in my case it's a huge contributing factor and saying otherwise would be denial.
Danfalc
Banned
Jake do your parents know?Thats if you dont mind me asking.Just for some reason I always thought they would,I guess it's just because your so open on here.
Anyway this isnt aimed at anyone just me ranting..feel free to ignore
Ive never questioned my sexuality and Im very happy being straight.But I couldnt imagine how much worse it would of made life if I had been gay.Not the being gay part,my Dad was just an abusive asshole.He would of tried to beat it out of me or somthing
I use to get into trouble a lot at school for fighting and stuff,and I can remember him saying to my Mum once "as long as he doesnt come home and say he's queer".People are so judgemental at school as well (I'm not excluding myself),the worst thing you could call another guy at school was a faggot or bitch.Being anyway feminine seems to equate weakness in a lot of peoples warped perspective.So I can see how it would add to social pressure for some people,it can be a hard experience for people with sad to get acceptance.
Anyway this isnt aimed at anyone just me ranting..feel free to ignore
Ive never questioned my sexuality and Im very happy being straight.But I couldnt imagine how much worse it would of made life if I had been gay.Not the being gay part,my Dad was just an abusive asshole.He would of tried to beat it out of me or somthing I use to get into trouble a lot at school for fighting and stuff,and I can remember him saying to my Mum once "as long as he doesnt come home and say he's queer".People are so judgemental at school as well (I'm not excluding myself),the worst thing you could call another guy at school was a faggot or bitch.Being anyway feminine seems to equate weakness in a lot of peoples warped perspective.So I can see how it would add to social pressure for some people,it can be a hard experience for people with sad to get acceptance.
Jake123
Banned
Jake do your parents know?Thats if you dont mind me asking.Just for some reason I always thought they would,I guess it's just because your so open on here.
Anyway this isnt aimed at anyone just me ranting..feel free to ignore
I use to get into trouble a lot at school for fighting and stuff,and I can remember him saying to my Mum once "as long as he doesnt come home and say he's queer".People are so judgemental at school as well (I'm not excluding myself),the worst thing you could call another guy at school was a faggot or bitch.Being anyway feminine seems to equate weakness in a lot of peoples warped perspective.So I can see how it would add to social pressure for some people,it can be a hard experience for people with sad to get acceptance.
No, they don't know and god help me if they found out. The reason I'm "open" about is is here is because I can't do it in real life so I have to channel it somewhere. But yeah you get the idea, it's not easy.
Maybe its because wouldn't care what my family thought and what anyone else would think since i generally avoid people anyway. Even if i was straight i wouldn't have much chance of having a relationship because of SAD and various other things. But i don't see how a sexuality can mean you need this constant barrier up unless you are already in a relationship.
I have known people very well for years and ive never had to tell them about my sexuality, maybe i purposely have avoided telling them but it's hardly 'living a lie' or making social anxiety any worse. I just don't see how its this huge deal that many people make it out to be.
I have known people very well for years and ive never had to tell them about my sexuality, maybe i purposely have avoided telling them but it's hardly 'living a lie' or making social anxiety any worse. I just don't see how its this huge deal that many people make it out to be.
Danfalc
Banned
Sorry I hope I didnt offend you by saying your open about it,but tis great you can vent here,I'd like to say without being judged but everywhere has its share of idiots.And thanks I probaly have no idea,but with my asshole of a Dad it wouldnt of been good if I was.
Honestly, I forget that I am gay most of the time, seriously Its because I am so shielded or have such a barrier up that I dont disclose any personal aspects about myself, especially something as close & personal as me being gay. & I dont not disclose thta I am gay because I fear being ridiculed or getting hurt(mentally or physically) its just that I consider disclosing facts/bits'n'pieces about my personality very uncomfortable & foreign.
But I am sure that being gay plays a part in me not wanting to disclose my personality & experiences at school & has influenced/contributed to me having SA.
Its because I am so shielded or have such a barrier up that I dont disclose any personal aspects about myself, especially something as close & personal as me being gay. & I dont not disclose thta I am gay because I fear being ridiculed or getting hurt(mentally or physically) its just that I consider disclosing facts/bits'n'pieces about my personality very uncomfortable & foreign.But I am sure that being gay plays a part in me not wanting to disclose my personality & experiences at school & has influenced/contributed to me having SA.