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[longlivesolitude]

Hello

I sometimes think I have hard time finding friends that I can really relate to. I just think I have difficulty getting to know the people I actually find interessting. It's probably because of my SA that people don't really know ME before they have been spending a lot of time with me. It's not that I'm ungrateful because I do appreciate the friends I have. Hmm.. just had to get it out I can feel I have more say, but can't write it down.

Anyone who can relate to this?

Bye :roll:

 

[LittleMissScareAll]

I can't relate to anyone. I gave up on "friends." Everybody hates me in the end anyway, so why bother?

 

[longlivesolitude]

I don't know what you have been going through, but the thought that everybody hates you sounds a lot like negative thinking to me It must be worth trying to find happiness?

 

[Septor]

At least you have friends

 

[abc1234]

friends fuck friends who needs them every person i know in real life is an ass and has their head so far up thier ass its not even funny most ppl r as shallow as a 2 inch puddle

 

[LittleMissScareAll]

I don't know what you have been going through, but the thought that everybody hates you sounds a lot like negative thinking to me It must be worth trying to find happiness?

It's not negative thinking...it's just the truth. Every time somebody meets me, they end up hating me. That's just the way it goes. Happiness doesn't exist. Not for me.

 

[cincykid]

I don't know what you have been going through, but the thought that everybody hates you sounds a lot like negative thinking to me It must be worth trying to find happiness?

It's not negative thinking...it's just the truth. Every time somebody meets me, they end up hating me. That's just the way it goes. Happiness doesn't exist. Not for me.

Well I certainly don't hate you, and I am certain no one on this message board hates you either.

 

[longlivesolitude]

xabbyx: Hmm yeah you are probably right, but it's not like I'm looking for my soulmate. Just want to be around some people who have some of the same mentallity as me.

LittleMissScareAll: Are you threating people bad? If you are a very closed or silent person does not make you a bad person. If you see yourself as worth nothing I think other people easily adopt that view of you :? Not sure if this helps any. Just don't give up [/quote]

 

[LittleMissScareAll]

Well I certainly don't hate you, and I am certain no one on this message board hates you either.

thanks...maybe I'm not hated by others with SP, but i know basically everyone i've ever met in person has ended up hating me & avoiding me.

 

[LittleMissScareAll]

LittleMissScareAll: Are you threating people bad? If you are a very closed or silent person does not make you a bad person. If you see yourself as worth nothing I think other people easily adopt that view of you :? Not sure if this helps any. Just don't give up

Nope, I've treated those people well. I think they WANT to be treated bad though...maybe I should start just treating people bad, since that's apparently what they want. But it's too late, I've already basically given up...I didn't used to feel this bad about things, but since everything always goes the exact same way every time I meet someone, I have to assume it always will....no expectations, no disappointments.

 

[4myself]

Do you think maybe we expect too much from people?. I think that people on here are correct in saying that most people are shallow and we wont have anything more than a superficial relationship with them anyway. I dont know, just random thoughts.

 

[Richey]

I completely agree with abc. Alot of people i know are all about who has the biggest penis. My ego is bigger and more impressive than yours. Life is alot like a board game and its alot like the tv show the Apprentice. The best looking the person with the highest payed jobs and egos are looked upon as being the winners. I am also annoyed at many of my friends who just conform to what society places in front of them and don't look outside the nine dots. Meaning just being involved in something because its popular. But you have the right to choose your friends and thats a positive thing.

 

[abc1234]

yeah i mean really why r those thing important well with men anymays about the whole penis thing i mean does size really even matter and also something men to brag about of the random chicks the dissapoint in bed hehe.most and brag about doing it all night i read online that most me any last around 7 mins or less during sex so most guys r lieing about theie experenecs

 

[JJenny]

Myself, what you said about......
"Do you think maybe we expect too much from people?. I think that people on here are correct in saying that most people are shallow and we wont have anything more than a superficial relationship with them anyway. I dont know, just random thoughts."

Not at all random. I think emotionally based people like ourselves seek emotional connections with people and once that connection is made greater trust is in place. So those that we don't make an emotional connection with, and this can be even subtle energies, body language, eye contact, words that connect, we tend to not trust and block. They do not get our seal of approval and then our walls grow thicker and larger. It is sad, I've been there and life becomes a battle as we make our way through it with out bricks and mortar. And it builds more of the opposite of what we wish to create in the world - acceptance, unity, understanding, compassion and such like.

Been there guys, and done that, walked the path and understand your pain and now lived both sides of the coin - separation or unity.....we choose what we create, what we think, the whole picture for self. It's a choice where and how we want to live our lives. Anything is possible, consider what your heart wants in the world, in your world. Limitation creates more limits. Be the change you wanna see in the world, be fearless, there's nothing to lose that you ain't lost already.

 

[MarkyMark]

Hmm… Interesting subject. Have you ever noticed that the girl or guy who bitches the most, slags people off, tells lies behind their backs, gossips is the one with the most friends and is very popular.

It always amazes me why anyone would want to be friends with such a person. Yes, on the surface they are fun to be around but once you get to see that nasty side to their character, why would you want to stick around? Does it not occur to them that she or he will do the same to them?

This is something that has always puzzled me, they literally demonstrate their nasty character and yet people seem to love them for it!!

 

[Invisible_Alien]

I've never really met anyone who I could relate to with a close connection. I guess maybe I tried too hard. Of all the friends, acquaintances and girlfriends I've had, none could relate to my life experiences, personality and ways of thinking. I think if I find I have something in common with someone, it makes it more easy for me to talk to that person, at least about whatever it is we have in common. I think I gave up on trying to relate to people and just accept myself for the individual I am. Too many people I know are shallow and only seek relationships with people who match their ideas of beauty and good looks. It makes me mad sometimes that people can be that shallow.