Freaking out and really nervous! Advice?

[SmileMore]

In a few hours i'm going to be visiting my auntie who i haven't seen since i was about 13 (i'm 25). I'm going with my dad, who i hardly ever see (parents are divorced), my step-mother and 2 half sisters. They're picking me up at lunch time and i'm really nervous. I don't want it to be really awkward, especially when it's going to be a long car journey.

Me and my sisters are practically strangers because i hardly ever see my dad. One is nearly 18 and the younger one is 14. I'm just dreading it and i don't want to say something stupid or make an idiot of myself. It seems like my auntie is looking forward to seeing me and i don't want them to think i'm boring or disappoint people. I'm mainly going because they've asked me to go before and i've always made excuses so i didn't have to go and i'm trying to be a bit braver and push myself to do more.

How do i keep calm and not panic?

 

[shakethelight]

Ok, well first- you're not boring & you won't disappoint them. It's probably going to be a little overwelming at first. I'm sure your Aunt will probably start the convo & maybe you can feed off of that? Ask the 14 yr old if she's excited for school ( or if started already how's it going so far?) ask her about her summer. yah know just genernal things. As for the 18 yr old, ask how summers been. If she's excited for college? Or seening anybody? Just remember what you used to be like at age 18 and try base your questions around that. Keep it light but show a geniune interest.

Clearly they want to get to know you better or they wouldn't have asked you to lunch. So just keep that in mind. At the very least, you're going & you should be proud.

A few years ago my brother & my parents had a falling out with him, he didn't talk to us for three years. He finally came around about two years ago but I was apprehensive & didn't know how to act. So everytime he came over, I would leave the room or not come out. He was so much more accomplished than I was- and I felt like a loser. I finally got the nerve to talk to him & ask if I could start going to the gym with him, to my surprise he said yes. It was weird at first but I would force myself to talk to him even tho he basically was like a stranger to me. Now whenever he comes by he treats me with respect. So go & enjoy your lunch & your family.

I really hope it goes well. I'll be sending good vibes your way