Do you have a problem asking people to hang out or go do things?
I love being around people, and doing different thing and hanging out.
The problem is, I dont like asking people to spend time with me. alot of my passed relationships/friendships have taught me to believe that people dont like me around(weather its true or not idk)
I used to have a group of friends in high school that would try and hide from me. but as single people they would stick around me. i used to try and hang out with my older brother but he would never let me, older sister pretended i wasnt related, and there are many more instances as well, all threw my life its been the same. Most of the time people made me feel like i was bothering them while i was around
So now, i have a really hard time asking people if they wanna do things, i feel that if somebody wants to do stuff with me they will ask, and thats how its always been, but now its putting a strain on my social life, now trying to make new friends its very hard, because i dont dare ask them to hang out, its even worse with girls
I know its mainly in my head, a learned bad habit, but the feelings are very strong and my biggest issue with dealing with my SA
Anybody else have a problem with this? anybody know how to get over these bad habits
I love being around people, and doing different thing and hanging out.
The problem is, I dont like asking people to spend time with me. alot of my passed relationships/friendships have taught me to believe that people dont like me around(weather its true or not idk)
I used to have a group of friends in high school that would try and hide from me. but as single people they would stick around me. i used to try and hang out with my older brother but he would never let me, older sister pretended i wasnt related, and there are many more instances as well, all threw my life its been the same. Most of the time people made me feel like i was bothering them while i was around
So now, i have a really hard time asking people if they wanna do things, i feel that if somebody wants to do stuff with me they will ask, and thats how its always been, but now its putting a strain on my social life, now trying to make new friends its very hard, because i dont dare ask them to hang out, its even worse with girls
I know its mainly in my head, a learned bad habit, but the feelings are very strong and my biggest issue with dealing with my SA
Anybody else have a problem with this? anybody know how to get over these bad habits