For anyone with eye contact anxiety difficulty, this worked quite a lot for me instantly!

lily

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Hope this helps anyone who's struggling with eye contact anxiety difficulty and just can't look people in the eyes from social anxiety/phobia! Someone gave me this link to look into recently and I want to pass it on too! Much love!

If you want any discussions, I'm here and will try to help with the video :)
This video is a tremendous blessing to me. I hope God will help me more, completely. I still need to practice eye contact and go for counseling. I think these 2 things combined can help me so I'm going to keep trying but not expecting.
 
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lily

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aw, no one congratulated me on my improvement :( I made a thread on dreams, hopes and it started to come true!
 
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lily

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basically what I got from this video, the trick is to calm your brain and even say a little positive affirmation to yourself. Mine is (what affected me in the past in a school was) the truth is "there's nothing wrong with the way you look". And especially when I'm with family, I feel less anxious anyway. I have to keep practicing. Make sure you don't have any subconscious negative thought in your head.
 
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lily

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In the video it talks about building your self-esteem so I thought positive affirmation is a way to settle/calm your brain and tell yourself that there's absolutely nothing to worry about! You can build your self-esteem too by building your own positive thought pattern and other ways and thereby see if it can correct your eye contact anxiety difficulty!
 
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Graeme1988

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Good to hear that things are starting to improve for you, lily.

Equally great is how that YouTube video helped a lot and how you were able to apply the techniques discussed in it.

Though, you're also absolutely right about how positive affirmations help when it comes to our minds getting overwhelmed by anxiety.
 

lily

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Good to hear that things are starting to improve for you, lily.

Equally great is how that YouTube video helped a lot and how you were able to apply the techniques discussed in it.

Though, you're also absolutely right about how positive affirmations help when it comes to our minds getting overwhelmed by anxiety.
Thanks so much for your encouragement, Graeme! that's so sweet and kind of you.
 

Xervello

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basically what I got from this video, the trick is to calm your brain and even say a little positive affirmation to yourself. Mine is (what affected me in the past in a school was) the truth is "there's nothing wrong with the way you look". And especially when I'm with family, I feel less anxious anyway. I have to keep practicing. Make sure you don't have any subconscious negative thought in your head.

Apologies if I'm prying, but have you always had problems with eye contact or did it begin during high school? I only ask because I think a lot of my anxieties began around or shortly after puberty. When I was a kid, I was pretty independent and had little to no social anxiety.

Funny you mention having less anxiety when around family. A few years back I visited a friend (who I met at this forum) and I hadn't physically been around an adult friend since I was in high school. I noticed being with them in public places, my social anxiety/hyperawareness diminished quite a lot. It's amazing how being in the company of someone you trust can relax a person. Sadly, we're no longer friends, but it was a good lesson to learn.
 

lily

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Apologies if I'm prying, but have you always had problems with eye contact or did it begin during high school? I only ask because I think a lot of my anxieties began around or shortly after puberty. When I was a kid, I was pretty independent and had little to no social anxiety.

Funny you mention having less anxiety when around family. A few years back I visited a friend (who I met at this forum) and I hadn't physically been around an adult friend since I was in high school. I noticed being with them in public places, my social anxiety/hyperawareness diminished quite a lot. It's amazing how being in the company of someone you trust can relax a person. Sadly, we're no longer friends, but it was a good lesson to learn.
No, it's ok to ask! :) My problem with eye contact started around gr. 9. I was like you, no anxiety when I was a kid. Sorry to hear you're no longer friends but nice lesson to learn!
 
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