blight
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This girl who I had been talking to and emailing with for about a month just emailed me to inform me she has been stolen by another guy. That really sucks. Actually we had only talked on the phone a few times but had emailed each other like ten or fifteen times....which seemed like a lot at that time doesn't seem like that much just describing it. I had spent a lot of time writing and reading some of those emails though when we were first getting to know each other, and then a fair amount of time talking.
She went almost a week without sending me something and even though I knew she was taking a trip during some of that time I knew something was up. I think guys have a very sensitive intuition when it comes to whether a girl has started having feelings for someone else... One night actually it just hit me as I was going to bed that that is what happened. Then I emailed her and asked her if that was what was going on and she admitted it. I suspect she wasn't replying earlier b/c she wanted to see if it was going anywhere with him before she burned here bridges so to speak.
Anyway this is the first time I think someone has deliberately chosen someone over me who I was really making an effort with. Not a good feeling. We hadn't even met in person though... but it pisses me off that I was *really sure* she was perfect for me even from after our first communication...If this was a movie I suppose I would seek her out and deliver some empassioned speech and steal her back... This is not the movies though and I have no wish to play games like that...I'm just dissapointed she didn't see that we were a good match.
It also pisses me off that some girls seem so able to be "swooned". I mean it almost seems like any guy under any circumstances could get any girl if he was only to say the right things. It is like that movie Ground Hog Day with Bill Murray when he has all those chances to "win over the girl". The whole idea of "winning" the girl is so offensive to me...and even more offensive is that fact that it actually does happen!! I trusted my intuition with this girl and thought it was a good match and I think if she had done the same thing rather than let this guy manipulate her, she would felt the same. I know that sounds arrogant, but it also happens to be the way I feel even if I try to look at it objectively.
She went almost a week without sending me something and even though I knew she was taking a trip during some of that time I knew something was up. I think guys have a very sensitive intuition when it comes to whether a girl has started having feelings for someone else... One night actually it just hit me as I was going to bed that that is what happened. Then I emailed her and asked her if that was what was going on and she admitted it. I suspect she wasn't replying earlier b/c she wanted to see if it was going anywhere with him before she burned here bridges so to speak.
Anyway this is the first time I think someone has deliberately chosen someone over me who I was really making an effort with. Not a good feeling. We hadn't even met in person though... but it pisses me off that I was *really sure* she was perfect for me even from after our first communication...If this was a movie I suppose I would seek her out and deliver some empassioned speech and steal her back... This is not the movies though and I have no wish to play games like that...I'm just dissapointed she didn't see that we were a good match.
It also pisses me off that some girls seem so able to be "swooned". I mean it almost seems like any guy under any circumstances could get any girl if he was only to say the right things. It is like that movie Ground Hog Day with Bill Murray when he has all those chances to "win over the girl". The whole idea of "winning" the girl is so offensive to me...and even more offensive is that fact that it actually does happen!! I trusted my intuition with this girl and thought it was a good match and I think if she had done the same thing rather than let this guy manipulate her, she would felt the same. I know that sounds arrogant, but it also happens to be the way I feel even if I try to look at it objectively.
