feeling so alone and imcomlete
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opinionated_m
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I felt that way just a little over a week ago
but coming to this site has help me alot.
My SP resurfaced after a drama relationship I had last december. It hit me full force this time, neck tension so bad I had to quit my job. I felt so helpless. Thankfully I have supportive loving family & haven't moved out yet. But I had started isolating myself from them too. I had also become dependent on liquor almost daily/everyother day for almost a year now.
But I decided to turn that around bc I could feel how my body was being affected. So just last week I quit drinking. I practiced what I read about 'acceptance' of your anxiety, learning to embrace it & love it & yourself. I also decided to mix up my routine.. rather than isolating myself studying in my room for college & playing on the computer...... I cleaned my room, car, & started spending more time with family. And while I was doing that I worked on putting the acceptance approach in to action. Wasn't easy, but after a week I've noticed huge improvement.
I wasn't treating myself enough either. I had been cooping myself up in my room studying day after day, going insane alone & feeling helpless. But what helps in those moments is after doing something difficult for you that stresses you out, workout (before or after) go outside to jog instead of inside, take a bubble bath.. anything relaxing but different from routine.
After practicing the acceptance theory.......
Instead of waking up thinking that I don't want to face another day of anxiety, I am excited about my day & have much more peace.
http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/postt12834.html
I think this site talks about accepting it some. I'm starting to see each day as an accomplishment that I'm proud of. Even my most difficult situations where lets say I run into an old friend & get nervous.. once its over I just tell myself I'm proud of myself.
If you don't have anyone you are close to or that you can call up just to talk to, if you are religious than you will always have God. If you aren't you can skip this part. But that is part of what helped me to quit drinking & start this process. I have read some scriptures about anxiety & having faith in God to help me out. Here is a good site, that I read:
http://www.foundationsforfreedom.net/Topics/AnxietyOA/OA00/OAOverview.html
Best regards
but coming to this site has help me alot.
My SP resurfaced after a drama relationship I had last december. It hit me full force this time, neck tension so bad I had to quit my job. I felt so helpless. Thankfully I have supportive loving family & haven't moved out yet. But I had started isolating myself from them too. I had also become dependent on liquor almost daily/everyother day for almost a year now.
But I decided to turn that around bc I could feel how my body was being affected. So just last week I quit drinking. I practiced what I read about 'acceptance' of your anxiety, learning to embrace it & love it & yourself. I also decided to mix up my routine.. rather than isolating myself studying in my room for college & playing on the computer...... I cleaned my room, car, & started spending more time with family. And while I was doing that I worked on putting the acceptance approach in to action. Wasn't easy, but after a week I've noticed huge improvement.
I wasn't treating myself enough either. I had been cooping myself up in my room studying day after day, going insane alone & feeling helpless. But what helps in those moments is after doing something difficult for you that stresses you out, workout (before or after) go outside to jog instead of inside, take a bubble bath.. anything relaxing but different from routine.
After practicing the acceptance theory.......
Instead of waking up thinking that I don't want to face another day of anxiety, I am excited about my day & have much more peace.
http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/postt12834.html
I think this site talks about accepting it some. I'm starting to see each day as an accomplishment that I'm proud of. Even my most difficult situations where lets say I run into an old friend & get nervous.. once its over I just tell myself I'm proud of myself.
If you don't have anyone you are close to or that you can call up just to talk to, if you are religious than you will always have God. If you aren't you can skip this part. But that is part of what helped me to quit drinking & start this process. I have read some scriptures about anxiety & having faith in God to help me out. Here is a good site, that I read:
http://www.foundationsforfreedom.net/Topics/AnxietyOA/OA00/OAOverview.html
Best regards
SocialRetahd
Well-known member
If you don't change things than it won't get better.
recluse said:socialhen said:
That's what i thought when i was 19 years old......Now i'm 26 nothing has changed
Same, except I'm 35
Well one thing has changed, I've accepted this is how it's going to be, whereas back then I thought things would just fall into place. Silly me.wow...you just described me...especially the waiting to die part.Jegan said:
i know everyone is saying things will get better and it sometimes might not, but it's good to talk about it. i've noticed you haven't posted since...even tho i see you lurking
. and you snubbed me when i mini messengered you lol. you can private message me if you want to talk about it. if not, no feelings hurt. just hope you are feeling better .
Jegan
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shynobody said:wow...you just described me...especially the waiting to die part.Jegan said:
i know everyone is saying things will get better and it sometimes might not, but it's good to talk about it. i've noticed you haven't posted since...even tho i see you lurking
Hey shynobody how are you? im so sorry I didnt mean to snubb you.. I dont actually see anyone messages me.. maybe i have popup blocker on. But i'll be the happiest person to talk to u ... I didnt actually get ur message. so no worries. but if u want I can give you my msn..you can add me..
Anyways..I still feel the same..feeling incomplete and disconected from my own self. I havent left my house in weeks. I havent gone to work in a while. I had a job but I only went for one day then I quit. Nothing seems to last. I feel like a zombie inside my mind.
Im sorry if i made u feel dipressed but this is the only reason I dont keep in touch with anyone. I always make people feel sad at the end
Jegan
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That's what i thought when i was 19 years old......Now i'm 26 nothing has changed
Hey Recluse..i havent loged on to the forum in years..How are you doing? Do you see any improvements with the SA?
Waybuloo
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What I found to have helped in situations like this is to find things to do that really occupy your energy, concentration, and hands, like building some craft project, a model house of cardboard, doing diy like fixing together a flat pack furniture piece from Ikea. Things like that also make you have a sense of accomplishment that is better than just reading or listening to music. Gaming can really take me into another world but becareful to not over do it.
When i'm depressed or angry sometimes I transfer that into energy for housework, when the momentum picks up it leaves me feeling productive and devil may care.
If you are acquainted with the practice of Acceptance therapy, maybe you will find useful the notion of just seeing each thought and feeling inside as thoughts and feelings generated by your brain, no more, they are not what you are. Just give them the time of day and release them, wave them goodbye. Do not make judgment on having them, just accept that they come and go, step back and float above your busy brain.
The other day, I was so consumed with anger, but I stopped myself plunging into an indulgence in it like I usually do, and just thought 'hmm there I go, i'm getting angry', and miraculously I stopped feeling angry.
When i'm depressed or angry sometimes I transfer that into energy for housework, when the momentum picks up it leaves me feeling productive and devil may care.
If you are acquainted with the practice of Acceptance therapy, maybe you will find useful the notion of just seeing each thought and feeling inside as thoughts and feelings generated by your brain, no more, they are not what you are. Just give them the time of day and release them, wave them goodbye. Do not make judgment on having them, just accept that they come and go, step back and float above your busy brain.
The other day, I was so consumed with anger, but I stopped myself plunging into an indulgence in it like I usually do, and just thought 'hmm there I go, i'm getting angry', and miraculously I stopped feeling angry.