Feeling like nothing will ever work out

[faithnomore]

Does anyone else get this feeling of thinking nothing will ever happen, nothing will go right?

I fear i will be stuck in this situation forever. I try to forget, and not think about negative things, but i cant help it. I am desperate to change, but i dont feel capable of going out and taking action.

I feel hopeless.

I know i have to try, but i cannot push myself out there as i am just too afraid.

I'm not sure where to go or what to do, and it's been like this for years.

What on earth can i do!?

 

[NothingElseMatters]

hi faith

i get that feeling when i am depressed.like i hit a wall everytime i try to do something and i stay stuck but that's only when i fall into depression
other times i am optimistic and you know what?you don't have to 'get out there' to start doing something for yourself.get out where?it's the inside that you have to work on.audio tapes,books,articles, try anything.take your mind of the anxiety by working on something that doesnt have the title 'anxiety' on it.if your thoughts start changing you won't even have to worry of going outside cause it's just gonna happen.
That's my opinion...

 

[mikestar]

Im having a day like that today,cant even bovered to motivate myself to do simplest of tasks.

my life is a black hole oh gawd where did i leave that knife too haha

 

[zlench]

I'm feel like crap today and nothing seems to be going right today and it's like a day of desperation and it still isn't improving and I can't seem to push myself hard enough to make it improve.

 

[iamthenra]

Does anyone else get this feeling of thinking nothing will ever happen, nothing will go right?

I fear i will be stuck in this situation forever. I try to forget, and not think about negative things, but i cant help it. I am desperate to change, but i dont feel capable of going out and taking action.

I feel hopeless.

I know i have to try, but i cannot push myself out there as i am just too afraid.

I'm not sure where to go or what to do, and it's been like this for years.

What on earth can i do!?

I feel that way everyday....

 

[CeeJay1981]

Good advice NothingElse

When you are having those down days your mind is focussed on what you DONT want (not wanting to be like this forever, feeling hopeless etc.)

Practice NOTICING when you are doing this to yourself and pick up a book, or go online to find some inspiration. Do anything that changes your STATE OF MIND.

If you practice this enough, (it can be tedious at first since you have a bad habit of thinking in this way) you will start to "catch" yourself doing it more and more often. In those moments you can then switch your attention to what it is you DO WANT to have happen in your life instead of what you don't.

Hope this helps

 

[faithnomore]

hi faith

i get that feeling when i am depressed.like i hit a wall everytime i try to do something and i stay stuck but that's only when i fall into depression
other times i am optimistic and you know what?you don't have to 'get out there' to start doing something for yourself.get out where?it's the inside that you have to work on.audio tapes,books,articles, try anything.take your mind of the anxiety by working on something that doesnt have the title 'anxiety' on it.if your thoughts start changing you won't even have to worry of going outside cause it's just gonna happen.
That's my opinion...

I have done things like cooking, and also spend time listening to music, playing games etc. I even saw my friends yesterday and today (that see me on the weekends, i actually have 2 friends) and some family.

But most of the time, especially weekdays i'm all alone. And i just really want to meet a girl etc. Another problem is that if i do go out, i get intimidated by people (even if i dont show it physically) mentally it destroys me.

I'm really trying to push myself and improve, but i just cant seem to stop thinking that i will fail and that i will get nowhere.

At least i know i'm not the only person here that feels hopeless. But i feel sorry for us all, because its really painful feeling depressed and on edge like this.

 

[market.garden]

Take it one step at a time. I get the same feelings, like I'll never get anywhere or achieve anything because of all this etc. I tried forcing myself to change and it just made things worse, I'm accepting things more and taking life step by step rather than over doing it too quickly as working through this can be exhausting.

 

[faithnomore]

Take it one step at a time. I get the same feelings, like I'll never get anywhere or achieve anything because of all this etc. I tried forcing myself to change and it just made things worse, I'm accepting things more and taking life step by step rather than over doing it too quickly as working through this can be exhausting.

I'm just starting to worry more as i get older. Desperation is getting worse. I know i have to go at my own pace. But like i've said before, i feel like its basically impossible to make it. Or i am too impatient, i want everything to work out.

 

[market.garden]

Are you seeing anyone about it? That certainly helped me to organize things in my head a bit more, which in turn helped to break things down. I think one of the problems people face is that so many thoughts and emotions get mixed up together and its just overwhelming and hard to decipher.

 

[faithnomore]

Are you seeing anyone about it? That certainly helped me to organize things in my head a bit more, which in turn helped to break things down. I think one of the problems people face is that so many thoughts and emotions get mixed up together and its just overwhelming and hard to decipher.

Once a week. And i have been seeing counsellors since i found out i had s/a (3 years ago). These past few weeks, my anxiety has lowered somehow (i have to fill out questionaires each week). But i still have the same fears about socialising.

It seems to be helping me. But progress is slow, and i feel that if i was to properly join things, i'd not fit in and i'd be out of my depth.

 

[market.garden]

i feel that if i was to properly join things, i'd not fit in and i'd be out of my depth.

I know what you mean, when I tried to force myself into social situations to "be like everyone else" I ended up at overcrowded bars, big gatherings I went along to with people I didn't really understand, and it just freaked me.

So what I started doing was organizing things with the odd friend I had that I felt comfortable with, and getting into social situations that weren't "too social" if you know what I mean.

Rather than big busy bars, restaurants and gatherings, I'd just go to the cinema during quiet hours, or quiet pubs. Sometimes with a friend, sometimes on my own... Kinda drip-feeding social situations into my life. That helped quite a bit.

 

[anomicdeer]

I always think that. And I always wonder, will I just die or will I live like this for another year?

 

[iamthenra]

I always think that. And I always wonder, will I just die or will I live like this for another year?

anomicdeer,
I wish you joy and happiness. I hope you find a way to rid yourself of these bad thoughts. You are young and beautiful and I hope you find euphoria in life.