feeling awkward and oncomfortable

[Falkor]

hello,

I feel uncomfortable and awkward around people, even 1 person.
I feel really awkward and nervous around people,
and for example, when im sitting in front of someone,
i keep on finding the right position to sit (body language)
and i keep on looking around really quick, and play with my hair,
and close my eyes over and over again, and i get a dry mouth.
This is really hard to deal with, because of this i avoid all these things
today a friend came to me, and we sure did have a good time,
but i was sooo awkward, and he got me a present and i was really clumsy
at opening the present and i just couldnt speak clear
i asked him what did you say?? all the time
and i was soo nervous.
And no i dont like him, im not into guys .Its because of my SA.
and now im worried about what he thought about that.
I really hate my SA i have this for 3 years now
and i feel so awkward and nervous..
this happens to me over and over again

 

[anxiety1408]

hello,

I feel uncomfortable and awkward around people, even 1 person.
I feel really awkward and nervous around people,
and for example, when im sitting in front of someone,
i keep on finding the right position to sit (body language)
and i keep on looking around really quick, and play with my hair,
and close my eyes over and over again, and i get a dry mouth.
This is really hard to deal with, because of this i avoid all these things
today a friend came to me, and we sure did have a good time,
but i was sooo awkward, and he got me a present and i was really clumsy
at opening the present and i just couldnt speak clear
i asked him what did you say?? all the time
and i was soo nervous.
And no i dont like him, im not into guys .Its because of my SA.
and now im worried about what he thought about that.
I really hate my SA i have this for 3 years now
and i feel so awkward and nervous..
this happens to me over and over again

You sound very much like me, I am very self conscious even around my friends now before I use to be okay to an extent now I pay too much attention to how I look/my body language/how I talk.. etc and I want to appear perfect and If I sense A negative energy/ Im not appearing how I want to than I feel as if anxiety has taken over me..

 

[Falkor]

You sound very much like me, I am very self conscious even around my friends now before I use to be okay to an extent now I pay too much attention to how I look/my body language/how I talk.. etc and I want to appear perfect and If I sense A negative energy/ Im not appearing how I want to than I feel as if anxiety has taken over me..

Hey , I'm glad i'm not alone with this, i wish we could control this,
i want to feel relaxed around people, just like normal people act like,
its like im on a stage the whole day, like the attention is on me
its crazyness

and anxiety1408.. im sorry that i didnt reply yet.. I just had a really long day full of stress.. but still it was a good time.. but i felt sooo self concious and just like you say.. the anxiety takes over you.. and i feel dissapointed becaues of that, because i want to be relaxed!

 

[anxiety1408]

Hey , I'm glad i'm not alone with this, i wish we could control this,
i want to feel relaxed around people, just like normal people act like,
its like im on a stage the whole day, like the attention is on me
its crazyness

and anxiety1408.. im sorry that i didnt reply yet.. I just had a really long day full of stress.. but still it was a good time.. but i felt sooo self concious and just like you say.. the anxiety takes over you.. and i feel dissapointed becaues of that, because i want to be relaxed!

I know I just want to feel normal again nothing crazy, just normal would be nice where I dont get anxious over stupid things, Same here I feel like the spotlights always on me and I let other peoples opinion affect me I should really stop relying on others.

Dont worry about it, I understand how you feel because I feel self conscious constantly even around my own family! Its funny because we get what we dont want and get further away from what we do want, we should try wanting to feel anxiety wanting to feel all the emotions and see how that works lol

 

[scarednotshy]

hello,

I feel uncomfortable and awkward around people, even 1 person.
I feel really awkward and nervous around people,
and for example, when im sitting in front of someone,
i keep on finding the right position to sit (body language)
and i keep on looking around really quick, and play with my hair,
and close my eyes over and over again, and i get a dry mouth.
This is really hard to deal with, because of this i avoid all these things
today a friend came to me, and we sure did have a good time,
but i was sooo awkward, and he got me a present and i was really clumsy
at opening the present and i just couldnt speak clear
i asked him what did you say?? all the time
and i was soo nervous.
And no i dont like him, im not into guys .Its because of my SA.
and now im worried about what he thought about that.
I really hate my SA i have this for 3 years now
and i feel so awkward and nervous..
this happens to me over and over again

i'm exactly the same. i avoid socializing as much as possible cuz it's so damn draining. even if you're laughing and stuff, you still feel it and the nervous energy you expend leaves you feeling sapped and wrung out. ::

 

[Social_Monstrosity]

Flowergirlie, you have a beautiful voice you know that?

Has singing helped with your SAD?

 

[kihira]

I never seem to know what to do with my arms around other people, I find I fold them, unfold, fold etc etc.

Hey Saskia - you are a natural in front of the camera and seem very at ease; could you tap into that and use it with people face-to-face? Imagine that same feeling when you are talking to them or even imagine a webcam sitting on their heads and talk to that?

Just watched "coz im dutch", very funny

 

[KiaKaha]

Well you know, I saw a couple of your videos on you tube of you singing (You sing soul sister very well I might add) and you come across almost the opposite of how you describe yourself in your post. I know I cant offer you a solution as to how you feel. But judging from your posts and your video I can reassure you that when you are comfortable, you come across as calm, friendly and likeable. I am sure many would agree. If you can somehow show that to the world, your confidence and your natural charisma would shine.

 

[Falkor]

Well you know, I saw a couple of your videos on you tube of you singing (You sing soul sister very well I might add) and you come across almost the opposite of how you describe yourself in your post. I know I cant offer you a solution as to how you feel. But judging from your posts and your video I can reassure you that when you are comfortable, you come across as calm, friendly and likeable. I am sure many would agree. If you can somehow show that to the world, your confidence and your natural charisma would shine.

thnx, well you know , when i sing for my webcam, it's just me and the laptop..
I don't feel anxious in my own room, but when i turn on the webcam for a live chat (or real life) i feel anxious, and i'm really uncomfortable.
But this somehow makes me feel relieved that i CAN be relaxed..
But its hard to show that in the real world, facing people.

 

[mwas]

Haha, very funny! I thought I was the only one with the arms problem, I bet am not abnormal.