Extremley shy and self conscious and have no friends. Help?

I dunno if this should be here or in Shyness but anyway here goes..

OK, so basically I just can't talk to people, it's quite annoying. I'm fine when i'm around people I know such as family but if I have to talk to anyone outside these four walls I find it very hard to loosen up and talk to people with the same confidence that i do to family. I always feel like I come across like a little mousey type creature and that everyone judges me negativley. I can only bring myself talk to people when it's absolutley unavoidable, if I see someone that I think is cool or a cute girl that I'd like to get to know or something I just can't bring myself to start a conversation because i get feelings that I'll get a negative reaction or that i'd be intruding. It even feels akward walking past people in the streets because I feel like they are judging me negativley so I become very self aware of facial expressions and how I'm walking because I feel I might end up looking like a fool and end up tripping over or bump into someone.
I am currently not working or anything and i don't go out much. I want to get a job soon just because I want the money but I always feel akward having to interact with people and I can never make friends. I just want a normal life and to feel at ease with other people and be myself but i can't. Please give me some advice?
It must be said that i don't really have any friends because of the reasons I just mentioned, I find it impossible to make them. Through my eyes, it just can't be done unless someone approaches me. I really need some advice on this, this is really getting to me now
 
Well, I can't really give you any advice because I have the same problems, and can relate to everything you're saying. I mean I don't really know what to do but the fact is you've got to put yourself out there. It's been long enough now that I know people aren't justing going to come to you. I've been waiting so long and just hoping that a person will come up to me, someone that I get along with very well, and will change things for me. Though now I've realized that's just not going to happen. We can't just sit around for the rest of our lives waiting for things to happen for us. We have to go out there and get them. You probably already know this, but this is all I really have to say. I don't have many friends either because I won't iniate things, making people probably think I don't like them or are not interesed in them. I don't know, I mean I guess you just have to put yourself out there and take some chances in life.
 
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