toothpastekisses
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Exposure
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I guess I kinda agree with that. But for me... Ive done a lot social things that I didint wanna do or wasnt comfortable with. They didnt really help me. More like... made me MORE uncomfortable and made me not want to do those things again. So it made me more avoidant.
So putting myself in a social situation that I know i'll be uncomfortable in isnt the best idea. More like... doing small social things like going to the store or something is a lot better.
So putting myself in a social situation that I know i'll be uncomfortable in isnt the best idea. More like... doing small social things like going to the store or something is a lot better.
sketchy24
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It helps a bit but it doesn't fix everything. I'm not anxious being around people at work like I used to be. My confidence has risen slightly yes. But I still have a hard time carrying a decent conversation. And talking to new peoples is even worse. I can keep one going for about 3minutes then I start looking for ways to leave because the dreaded silence I know is coming and I don't wanna leave a bad impression on the new people. SO I make up some excuse to leave even if I have 20 minutes left on my lunch break. I'll go to the outside lunch area or something.
Also... a look in the mirror or voice recording of myself can quickly knock down any kind of confidence I once had and the next week I'll have to start back over. Lets face it.. we werent all born attractive and I know an ugly person when I see one...
Also... a look in the mirror or voice recording of myself can quickly knock down any kind of confidence I once had and the next week I'll have to start back over. Lets face it.. we werent all born attractive and I know an ugly person when I see one...
VioletTears
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I am forced to intereact with people a lot through my job... IMO, it doesn't get easier, it just consumes more of your life... If it was all just about exposure then school should have been great too, right?
Even as adults people are cruel and judgemental, maybe that's why exposure doesn't help...
Even as adults people are cruel and judgemental, maybe that's why exposure doesn't help...
shield
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Yep you're 100% right. Only doing the hard things in life tend to give you results. If it's easy to do it probably isn't doing you much good.
I like to think of cognitive therapy and medications as safeguards that help you to do exposure therapy. Exposure therapy is what makes you better but cognitive therapy and medication make it easier because they safeguard your mental health while you carry out the exposure.
Optimal progress will be made if you use all three treatments. Pogress can be made on exposure alone but it will be more arduous.
TAMPA-BAY
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Hello
I ve tried blind exposure in the past but have notice that it was unefective. The best thing is to first prepare your self by using cognative thearpy. CBT teaches you to be aware of your thinking patterns and other mental things that we do.
I think its just like people who are afraid of hights. Going to the tallest building wont help you if you dont first prepare your self.
I ve tried blind exposure in the past but have notice that it was unefective. The best thing is to first prepare your self by using cognative thearpy. CBT teaches you to be aware of your thinking patterns and other mental things that we do.
I think its just like people who are afraid of hights. Going to the tallest building wont help you if you dont first prepare your self.
CK23
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I agree with the fact that you shoul have exposure... It has helped me so i can relate... But the thing is, exposure brings out aggression from you that shows in good performance at work but it hasnt solved the 'making friends' thing for me... In my new work place i have managed to get a foothold cos of my adrenaline but i havent been able to communicate... Whats worse is that i tried it and was totally let down by my work mates.... So the end result is that i am always working or sitting on the net...I dont know what the hell is wrong with people, cos no matter how i try i never manage to make any friends at all... Before i came to this site i felt like i was the biggest loner in the universe....