experiment: possible to destroy shyness by using willpower?

[n0id]

Hi!

I got a call from a person I know who is currently drunk and needs someone to drive him from a house into town.

Of course I agreed, he's my only friend. Not that I am being taken advantage of, but instead I live very close to his current whereabouts.

Anyway so I'm going to drive him, his girlfriend and another girl who he reffered to as "..and a super hot chick". So it will be interesting. Being drunk I doubt she is "super hot", but rather an illusion my friend made up.

But more to the point:

I am very shy (as I've said countless times now on this forum) and tired of it. So I decided to psyche myself up for the next hour and create a different personality, or at least call upon the inner me who appears when I am with my siblings or other close family members.

So you see I have three personalities, one that I use when I'm with my siblings, the "crazy"/daring/talkative/joking type. Another is when I'm with my parents, or other grownups in my family; the thinker, the adult me, or should I say: the grown up me. The last personality is the one I wear at work or amongst friends/or social gatherings where I am the quiet, shy and blushing type who can't figure out anything to say.

Neither of these personalities are controllable. Depending on the person I meet I either use one of these three personalities sub-counsiously.

But anyway what I am going to try is to bring up the first personality I listed (which is also the one I enjoy the most being) during the car ride from that place into town.

If I am able to bring him forward at will, it would mean some great progress has been made towards my goal of overcoming my shyness.



To summarize this long post,
I am going to try and be a different personality that doesn't fit in in the particular situation. (If you skipped the text above, read that to understand the meaning of this sentence).

I'll post the results when I get back from the ride. Which will be in about two hours or so. I think.

Anyone tried to do something like this? Or maybe you don't have any other personalities than just the one you're using right now?

 

[Angel_Of_Death]

I'm sorry I can't really help you on taking up on the personality you want, like you mentioned it's something that happens automatically or naturally depending on who you are with.

Your post however is really interesting as it made me realize that I'm very much like you, and I'm sure so are others on this forum.

I do have different personalities depending on who I am with, and I guess the ideal thing would be to only have one single personality...confident at all times.

Anyways, I wish you the best of luck whit the super hot chick :wink:

 

[n0id]

Hi again,

Yea the "super hot chick" mentioned turned out to be someone I've met before and had super long chats with. At a party, while being drunk :S

And yea she recognized me and of course I recognized her as well. So yea we just hugged, or more like she hugged me and I had no other choise but to hug her back. 8O Did I mention all of these people were/are drunk? So I was the only sober one, which was why I was driving Anyway.

Normally in a situation like this, where there are tons of people all shouting and stuff I would sit in a couch or whatever and spectate.

But as my goal this evening was to become or call upun a different personality I started slowly with greeting everyone I saw. They seemed happy to meet someone new, so it went smoothely. This boosted my confidence. (In case you are confused, this took place at a party.)

As the minutes went by I talked more and more, suddenly I started shouting and laughing and stuff. I noticed a change though I wasn't at the level I wanted to be at.

Anyway I tried to make up jokes and I succeded in some cases while in the other cases I tried to over talk it to make them forget what I was talking about (after all they were drunk).

So yea I had a good time even though I only knew four people.


It was finally time to drive the three persons to town and I actually felt sad to leave the social atmosphere, which is a first time for me.
Anyway during the drive I talked and talked. Though most of the time I just answered "yes" and "yea" and etc. agreeing with everything that was said. Mostly nonsense talk. So I got bored and tried to figure out what to do so I joked and shouted "Aaa!! A Cat in the road!!" That wasn't a good idea though. Nothing happened, but everyone was instantly quiet and intense. lol.

Well anyway, I feel that I accomplished my "experiment".

If you really want to change, you can! You just really have to want to do it!

My goal is to try and act this way always, but I'll continue experimenting in small steps like this one. I now know for a fact that I CAN if I just TRY.

As a side note I'd like to point out that I kind of think that because everyone was drunk and I felt that most of these people I would never meet again, I was able to act in this way. But time will tell, when I try to do this on some other occasion.

Also, the girl you now know as "the super hot chick" really is super hot and it appears she likes me, as she always sat next to me whenever I went to have a seat. She didn't say much though :/ probably didn't know what to say, I know she isn't shy. Or maybe she really is, and that's why she's drunk whenever I see her lol.

hooray for me! lol. 8)

 

[madmike]

I'm so happy for you and i'm sure you can make it! Take it easy though and don't expect any instant and permanent changes too soon... baby steps until you can step out of your old skin completely and adopt your new, confident personality 8)

I feel i have to say this because i've made some mistakes with expecting too much/too soon which have really fucked me up and created a real personality crisis for me :/ In no way do i want to scare you though, you are heading in the right direction!! Good luck!