ImNotMyIllness
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Does your Anxiety make you Impulsive
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Yes, my social anxiety makes me do things to appear "normal" to other people. For instance, sometimes I find myself saying things just to break the silence because the silence feels awkward. I also force myself to make eye contact with people but couldn't last for 5 seconds and had to look down or look away after that because it feels uncomfortable. I also find myself nodding a lot when someone's talking to me even though I may not understand what that person's talking about. It feels so awkward just standing there and listening, I feel so stiff throughout so I had to do something. Nodding and shifting my body randomly makes my body less stiff.
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PDoes your Anxiety make you Impulsive
Hmmm
I think my problems are earthed in a contrast / clash of interest. Geek. Nerd. Not so good with a Sales Representative, actor, billionnaire, etc
Not so introverted, shy... I do speak up at times but am anxious, and get nervous when people prompt me with questions which I don't want to hear or reply to.
I go on and on about myself too much, apparently. I like it this way.
I HATE QUESTIONS! I never want to ask any questions. It's a prod. A poke. A breach of privacy. I like to announce, boldly, what's on my mind. I never want to be stopped. I like to preach.. (?) a philosopher with some thoughts to convey, but the audience is so stiff!
I expect people to tell me all about themselves. I listen. People seem to win by asking 'how are you?' to infiltrate my guard
I guess it's a silly game of social standing. I have plenty do say! Nobody wants do hear. I get dismissed too much
Hmmm
I think my problems are earthed in a contrast / clash of interest. Geek. Nerd. Not so good with a Sales Representative, actor, billionnaire, etc
Not so introverted, shy... I do speak up at times but am anxious, and get nervous when people prompt me with questions which I don't want to hear or reply to.
I go on and on about myself too much, apparently. I like it this way.
I HATE QUESTIONS! I never want to ask any questions. It's a prod. A poke. A breach of privacy. I like to announce, boldly, what's on my mind. I never want to be stopped. I like to preach.. (?) a philosopher with some thoughts to convey, but the audience is so stiff!
I expect people to tell me all about themselves. I listen. People seem to win by asking 'how are you?' to infiltrate my guard
I guess it's a silly game of social standing. I have plenty do say! Nobody wants do hear. I get dismissed too much
same
. Insulting people I'm talking to is another one. I've heard OCD is linked to tourette syndrome and I can see why.ImNotMyIllness
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I can relate to all of you. I’ll break this up in two categories. There are the small impulsive things that I do to break up silence or feelings of awkwardness that always backfire and then there the more major impulsive actions. I actually want to discuss the latter. For Example:
Exhibit A. I’ll fall into a deep depression and then lose drive in things that I was previously passionate about. By the time I’m ready to pursue my dreams again, old friends that I was networking with have moved on. It’s like I lose track of time. I wake up and the dance is over. I’m alone and alienated.
Exhibit B. Online activities. On FB I’ll feel like no one is paying enough attention to me so then I’ll suddenly deactivate my account. Or, I’ll spend too much time on FB to the point that it is interfering with my life. Then I’ll tell everyone that I have to deactivate my account (most could care less).
Exhibit C. I bumped into an old acquaintance while I was working at some low level job. I then found that person online and sent them an email telling them why I was there and all of the goals that I was pursuing. The person could have cared less. They are very non-judgmental. But, I felt like a loser. To make matters worse, I added them on a social networking site.
Exhibit D. THIS WEBSITE. I don’t typically like to share my personal feelings. But, I’m feelings so helpless, desperate, and lonely, which has caused my anxiety to go through the roof. I’ve only been on this site for six days and I have already posted 155 times, not to mention personal messaging people.
................I know at some point, I'll start to feel too exposed and delete this account. (not now). Just another example of my impulsiveness.h:
Exhibit A. I’ll fall into a deep depression and then lose drive in things that I was previously passionate about. By the time I’m ready to pursue my dreams again, old friends that I was networking with have moved on. It’s like I lose track of time. I wake up and the dance is over. I’m alone and alienated.
Exhibit B. Online activities. On FB I’ll feel like no one is paying enough attention to me so then I’ll suddenly deactivate my account. Or, I’ll spend too much time on FB to the point that it is interfering with my life. Then I’ll tell everyone that I have to deactivate my account (most could care less).
Exhibit C. I bumped into an old acquaintance while I was working at some low level job. I then found that person online and sent them an email telling them why I was there and all of the goals that I was pursuing. The person could have cared less. They are very non-judgmental. But, I felt like a loser. To make matters worse, I added them on a social networking site.
Exhibit D. THIS WEBSITE. I don’t typically like to share my personal feelings. But, I’m feelings so helpless, desperate, and lonely, which has caused my anxiety to go through the roof. I’ve only been on this site for six days and I have already posted 155 times, not to mention personal messaging people.
................I know at some point, I'll start to feel too exposed and delete this account. (not now). Just another example of my impulsiveness.
h:I definitely relate to this. I often will have anxiety ..breakdowns? Where I basically freak out about something, send someone an awful message or something...and they will be mad at me for the next year. Basically everything you listed is something I have done. Those close to me already are used to this but still get mad when it happens. I am trying to teach myself to just calm down and maybe write it down or punch something, and later I will not care about the issue and won't have to deal with the repercussions of my actions.
Something like this actually happened to me today.
Something like this actually happened to me today.
ImNotMyIllness
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Sorry to hear that! We need to take a deep breath and calm down before responding. Unfortunately, we respond when we're feeling vulnerable or upset.
I am getting better. Seeing things from the other person's perspective and just letting it roll off my shoulders helps.
Yeah, I think a lot of times the problem with anxiety is we always are concerned with things that are minuscule for others. At least, for me. I always notice things, and tend to freak out about things that others wouldn't really care about. I guess the best thing is to just realize that whatever someone is doing to do is often not intentional. If it is, the best thing to do is probably to just not talk to them anymore period...or at least to not share your sentiments with them.
