Does this ever happen to anyone?how do you deal with it?

[Weakminded]

About three weeks ago my friend wanted me to go to a party and I was nervous and didn't want to go but decided ok I'll make myself go because I heard to get over social anxiety you have to put yourself in these situations. I end up going and at one point my friend walks past me and says your kookin it and that pissed me off because I knew I was gonna end up being awkward. I was just standing next to random people not talking and probally looking very weird. I remember at one point I looked around while everyone was talking and I was just there. Im glad there was beer to get me drunk and calm my nerves because otherwise I would have been freaking out and look terrified. One girl asked me if I was ok because she said I looked zoned out and all I could think was that I looked like I didn't know what to do. *I just don't know how to talk to people. I'm 23 I'm not a bad looking guy I deserve more out of life then to always be At home week after week away from the world. It just pisses me off that I put myself out in a social situation and ended up looking like a jack ass. *I got a couple of CDs on self confidence and how to be assertive it says after thirty days it should help. How do you make it at a party or In social situations? What do you do so you don't come off as awkward?

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

I'm the exact same way whenever I go to parties and other social situations like that. Usually my friends drag me into going to them to help me become more outgoing but honestly it's doing me a lot more harm than good. At this point I'm not too far from becoming a complete agoraphobic.

Usually I'm just standing there on the sidelines at parties, watching everyone have a good time and getting jealous of my friends being able to talk to all these cute guys without any effort. The one time a guy actually came up to me at a party on his own will I couldn't speak to him properly because my throat got all constricted by my anxiety and he ended up dissing me and calling me a "zombie" because I wouldn't/couldn't make conversation with him and make it worth his time. It really sucked.

I wish I could give you some advice on how to act at parties without coming off as awkward but being awkward seems to be my profession when it comes to social situations. I hope those CD's you bought can help you out.