MrSunday
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Why are you insulting yourself for? I find it really depressing when people insult themselves.
Does anyone here has a dysfunctional family
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Why are you insulting yourself for? I find it really depressing when people insult themselves.
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Yes, but not as bad as some other people
My mom has anxiety, depression and anger issues and used to beat me when I was a child. She's fine now (Most of the time at least)
I've only seen my dad a total of 4 times in my life
My Uncle is extremely violent and used to beat up his wife. He's on ODSP (Welfare for people with mental illness) and never really goes outside.
My grandfather has about 14 kids and he used to beat one of his wives. He's 76 now so he can't do that anymore.
That's about it.
My mom has anxiety, depression and anger issues and used to beat me when I was a child. She's fine now (Most of the time at least)
I've only seen my dad a total of 4 times in my life
My Uncle is extremely violent and used to beat up his wife. He's on ODSP (Welfare for people with mental illness) and never really goes outside.
My grandfather has about 14 kids and he used to beat one of his wives. He's 76 now so he can't do that anymore.
That's about it.
I agree.
It is hard to forgive the childhood past. Adults shouldn't do that around children, it really messes with kids emotions.
....My family on my father side....
Those people are crazy along with my dad. There are more sane people on my mother side, because at least they don't rob, shoot, do drugs and kill. I have so many stories, that's why I am where I'm at to get a better education and to be in a better environment. I have stores about one busting the door down coming in choking my mom threatening her with a knife, them stealing from me, the van ran out of gas once and I said one thing to my father and he socked me in the face it lead to a brutal fight. He was on drugs really bad once and I think the drugs made him antsy. We don't have to deal with them, my life is so much better, I don't know who I would have been if I was left in that mess and I thank my mother for having the courage to leave it all behind her. I could go for days about my crazy family.
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
I'd say... yes, sadly.
My mum has anxiety and depression issues. She used to lock me outta the house as punishment when I was a kid. It was not long after we'd moved house, that's why I remember it. She now says it never happened. Funny, how my oldest sister can remember it happening.
So there's that... she's also still emotionally distant towards me. And it only me she's like that with, not my older sisters. Treat me like I don't exist, sometimes. She also has a fairly negative outlook on just about everything, makes snide comments without thinking how I feel. And she's very weary of trusting people, even the very few friends I had during high school. When I was a teenager, I'd overhear and she'd say to my face that: "Men are useless, who needs 'em?"; "I'm glad I'm no in a relationship. They're are pointless, you're better off alone". Yeah, those are verbatim, by the way. Making it all the more depressing, that I still remember those comments. Of course, doesn't help that my mother repeated them endlessly, like a mantra, then says: "Only joking!". Makes me wonder why she had me in the first place, sometimes, I really do. Because she seems to have projected her bad experiences onto me. I know, I shouldn't say that. Though, it's not as bad now, the snide comments have stopped, overall since I actually began challenged my mother's negative opinions, but the emotionally affects are still pretty raw. ::
My dad wasn't really around much, I have no memories of him until I was 15. He was pretty absent, even when he was part of my life (8 years). He came and went as he pleased, making unannounced visits. I got the impression he was very domineering, overbearing personality. Control freak, really. Quite an intimidating presence about him. He belittled my interests, pretty much constantly. Always pressuring me to go to college and study accounting. Needless to say, we didn't really get along. ::
Two of my cousins are addicted to drugs - you name it, they've probably done it at some point. But that whole side of my family pretty much dysfunctional, really.
My mum has anxiety and depression issues. She used to lock me outta the house as punishment when I was a kid. It was not long after we'd moved house, that's why I remember it. She now says it never happened.
Funny, how my oldest sister can remember it happening. So there's that... she's also still emotionally distant towards me. And it only me she's like that with, not my older sisters. Treat me like I don't exist, sometimes. She also has a fairly negative outlook on just about everything, makes snide comments without thinking how I feel. And she's very weary of trusting people, even the very few friends I had during high school. When I was a teenager, I'd overhear and she'd say to my face that: "Men are useless, who needs 'em?"; "I'm glad I'm no in a relationship. They're are pointless, you're better off alone". Yeah, those are verbatim, by the way. Making it all the more depressing, that I still remember those comments. Of course, doesn't help that my mother repeated them endlessly, like a mantra, then says: "Only joking!". Makes me wonder why she had me in the first place, sometimes, I really do. Because she seems to have projected her bad experiences onto me. I know, I shouldn't say that. Though, it's not as bad now, the snide comments have stopped, overall since I actually began challenged my mother's negative opinions, but the emotionally affects are still pretty raw. :
:My dad wasn't really around much, I have no memories of him until I was 15. He was pretty absent, even when he was part of my life (8 years). He came and went as he pleased, making unannounced visits. I got the impression he was very domineering, overbearing personality. Control freak, really. Quite an intimidating presence about him. He belittled my interests, pretty much constantly. Always pressuring me to go to college and study accounting. Needless to say, we didn't really get along. :
:Two of my cousins are addicted to drugs - you name it, they've probably done it at some point. But that whole side of my family pretty much dysfunctional, really.
I'd say... yes, sadly.
My mum has anxiety and depression issues. She used to lock me outta the house as punishment when I was a kid. It was not long after we'd moved house, that's why I remember it. She now says it never happened.
So there's that... she's also still emotionally distant towards me. And it only me she's like that with, not my older sisters. Treat me like I don't exist, sometimes. She also has a fairly negative outlook on just about everything, makes snide comments without thinking how I feel. And she's very weary of trusting people, even the very few friends I had during high school. When I was a teenager, I'd overhear and she'd say to my face that: "Men are useless, who needs 'em?"; "I'm glad I'm no in a relationship. They're are pointless, you're better off alone". Yeah, those are verbatim, by the way. Making it all the more depressing, that I still remember those comments. Of course, doesn't help that my mother repeated them endlessly, like a mantra, then says: "Only joking!". Makes me wonder why she had me in the first place, sometimes, I really do. Because she seems to have projected her bad experiences onto me. I know, I shouldn't say that. Though, it's not as bad now, the snide comments have stopped, overall since I actually began challenged my mother's negative opinions, but the emotionally affects are still pretty raw. :
My dad wasn't really around much, I have no memories of him until I was 15. He was pretty absent, even when he was part of my life (8 years). He came and went as he pleased, making unannounced visits. I got the impression he was very domineering, overbearing personality. Control freak, really. Quite an intimidating presence about him. He belittled my interests, pretty much constantly. Always pressuring me to go to college and study accounting. Needless to say, we didn't really get along. :
Two of my cousins are addicted to drugs - you name it, they've probably done it at some point. But that whole side of my family pretty much dysfunctional, really.
Graeme, that sounds so scary to be locked out, sorry you had to go through it. Maybe she's ashamed of what she did to you and don't know how to or don't have the courage to apologize. Sorry about your father, I have a nutty one too, even though we want to love certain people we can't change them, none of it;s your fault. :
: Sorry.
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
Graeme, that sounds so scary to be locked out, sorry you had to go through it. Maybe she's ashamed of what she did to you and don't know how to or don't have the courage to apologize. Sorry about your father, I have a nutty one too, even though we want to love certain people we can't change them, none of it;s your fault. :
Yeah, and I can vividly recall being locked out the house a few times during autumn too - when it'd start getting dark in the early evening. Terrifyig when you're 6 - 7 year old. I think that's what contributed hugely to my SA, and my constant feeling of being an outsider. Probably got a abandonment issues, I'm 50% sure of that.
Anyway, I think you might be right about my mother feeling ashamed. Though, I'd go one further and say she knows apologizing wouldn't mean admiting she f***ed up, and I didn't "turn out alright", as her and my oldest half sister always like claim. :
: Sorry for the mini-rant, Beleza.
