Do you trust yourself?

[jesushelpme]

I have been finding out why i dont want to have friends and why i cant have friends and i think ive found the answer...TRUST...not so much me not trusting them ( i dont really trust people anymore anyway) but that i dont trust myself to be able to handle a situation i am in.

Eg...you got a friend over that gets drunk and you start to get drunk too and end up doing something you regret......

then i live for months avoiding the door knocking incase its them lol who am i hiding from them...or ME

 

[Kato]

HHMMM..Occasionally I do.

 

[jesushelpme]

I think i underestimate myself, And the thought of bad things happening to me again is holding me back from just being able to trust that i am a better person now, in a better place now and make better judgements now....
maybe i do trust myself but havnt given me the chance yet to make a friend out of fear of what happened in my past with letting people into my circle kinda thing.

how can we trust bad things wont happen though....we cant ....because...we cant predict the future to know the outcome, therefore.....i dont trust opening upto lettting others in...which makes my world a very lonely place

 

[Kato]

Self sabotage

This subject inspired me to think about what it is that I don't trust in myself.
What I came up with is that I have a problem with self Sabotage. I then did an online search and found the link below. I recognized some of these behaviors in myself and in some other peoples posts


5 Signs of Self Sabotage

 

[Falkor]

Sometimes i'm afraid I'll lose my mind and act stupid and make a fool out of myself. and because of my anxiety I totally act like a fool ,, because I'm so nervous around people,, I don't know how to act cooooool.
But I know it's not a shame, it's just the behaviour which my SA create..
But It's not the real ME. I can be also really relaxed around people.
But sometimes it's really hard for me..... to be like that
But .... I guess I can control that sumday. I REALLY WISH!

So yeah. I don't trust myself, i'm not secure, but at the same time I know what I want and I know what I want to reach in life. So I do trust my own goals.
I think I trust myself 50-50.

Lol, may sound a little OCD....?

 

[vj288]

I don't know, is trusting yourself and having confidence in yourself the same thing? If yes, then no I don't trust myself at all. If it's something else, maybe.

 

[jesushelpme]

oh wow ...i didnt know about anything called self sabatage , i just read that link and its definately seems to be a lot of how i am..that is definately something i need to investiage more and see how i can change my thinking.

If i was to just trust that i could handle my self in any surrounding...im sure my phobias, my fears and my worries would be a thing of the past