Do you lie?

[Emma]

Do you lie to cover up your social anxiety?

I will confess that I lied about not knowing how to use the photocopier at work so that I wouldn't have to get up because I was paranoid about people seeing me.

I also considered turning off the power point so the phone wouldn't ring and I wouldn't have to answer it

 

[SqueakyGibson]

Online I always lay it out bare. I don't have the self-worth to pretend to be normal.

In real-life I occasionally get into situations where people try to make small-talk, and they inevitably ask, "What do you do?" I tell the truth and say I'm unemployed... but I don't elaborate. They wouldn't understand, and it would spoil the atmosphere to talk about deep stuff. I dread the question though. It's the #1 small-talk question. It sucks.

 

[Tryin]

hah.. it's funny.. well ok it's not but a friend of mine just icqued me and asked what am i doing. of course i was reading posts on spw and of course i told him i was just answering some mails because i didnt want him to know i have SP :roll:

 

[Sable]

I hate lying, but I do it all the time. Usually to prospective employers in interviews etc, people in the jobcentre somtimes and, sadly, to my parents. I hate lying to my parents, but I do it. If they knew I was starving myself again, they'd freak. I've become quite adept at lying to everyone.

 

[uk_27]

lol Emma.....................Only today I lied about the photocopier because I could face going up there!!!! I plan to stay on after work when no one is there to teach myself!!!! This SP is a total joke isnt it!!!!?????

 

[maggie]

yes but only because people force me into that position with their lack of understanding.

yeah...same for me...and i do lie to get out of social stuff...a lot :roll:

 

[hans1]

standard

 

[Skog]

Do you lie to cover up your social anxiety?

Nope - I may try to evade answering questions I feel will be embarrassing, but I don't lie.

 

[Quixote]

yes but only because people force me into that position with their lack of understanding.

Same here. I usually avoid lying as much as I can, but often the choice is between a lie and a long explanation of extremely private matters which would be embarassing, useless, and inappropriate. So I have to choose the first out of necessity.

 

[Thelema]

I lie when people ask me about school. Its just easier to lie then to tell them the whole story of why I'm not in school.

 

[tomd]

The only time I usually lie is when it is about my feelings. I could be having a bad bad day, though I tell people that I'm good. This is because I have found that people really do not want to hear about your feelings or problems unless they being paid to do so. Other times I lie is when I'm online using an alias.

TomD

 

[chear15]

The only time I usually lie is when it is about my feelings. I could be having a bad bad day, though I tell people that I'm good. This is because I have found that people really do not want to hear about your feelings or problems unless they being paid to do so. Other times I lie is when I'm online using an alias.

TomD

Hey, I do the same, I may be feeling down, I will still smile and say I am good, I seem to always smile so people think I am just fine. When in reality I have some problems even my parents don't know the jist of my problems. I hide my feelings inside, I told one person my ex-girlfriend and she doesn't talk to me anymore, the thing is she really seemed to care until about 3 months later. She had problems as well though. I really hate lying, but I don't think most want to hear my problems although it helps letting it out.

 

[Richey]

I do lie but its always centered around my SA issues, i find that there are issues i just cant always be honest about, ive lied in the past about having a busy weekend, my school marks, all to avoid the alternative which is an interrogation by people.....and so it ends the questioning even if id did nothing i have been known to let my mouth go wild and say "yeah i went to a party" ...when really i didnt go.

ive also lied about school marks to family members because i know if they knew i wasnt passing, i would either by thrown out on the streets or lectured for hours and hours.

my lies always centre around avoiding confrontation and what SA stops me from accomplishing.

admittadley its a nasty habit to get into, im trying to stop the lies, but sometimes the odd white lie is necessary to avoid family breakdown, i find that i lie to my parents alot, because they are so prejudice and strict, i feel that if i was always honest i would have been thrown out of the house ages ago, if my parents were open minded and less conservative, then i would be more honest with them, but its not the case.

where as i find that i am 100% honest with a friend who is open minded and not prejudice towards me.

to sum up, i find that i lie more to authority figures (parents)(nasty lecturers) because i feel paranoid around them, where as a friend or a person who is more accepting, ill be completely honest with them

 

[Predacon]

I do occasionally lie usually it has to do with work or the lack of it. Or I'll be doing something that I don't want to tell anyone about, and someone asks so I make something up to keep my privacy.

 

[Drew]

As part of my avoidant behavior, I'll lie, if necessary, in order to get out of a tight spot. Usually this is a last resort.

 

[frizboy]

I think I lie pretty much everytime someone asks me to do something with them to get out of it. Part of it is due to the SA and me being uncomfortable around people... the other part of it is that I don't really enjoy what my friends enjoy so much... heh. Let me see.... I have a good friend named Chris who I don't mind talking to at all, but whenever we hang out, I am bored out of my mind. He just wants to look at crap on YouTube or play video games or listen to tunes!

 

[missquiet]

I think I lie pretty much everytime someone asks me to do something with them to get out of it.

yeah same. i've tried to avoid lying by actually trying to be busy ..like over working myself and taking extra classes...now i'm just exhausted.

 

[Screwdriver1020]

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[haze]

well what sounds better when a friend messages you

"Hey <name> what u doing?"

Option A
"Oh just being depressed again you know crying my eyes out for the past half hour because my life is so sad and pathetic and i have about as much social skills as a genetial wart"

Option B
"oh just watching tv"
"oh just listeaning to music"
etc

 

[scatmantom]

I used to lie to avoid social situations all the time ( i cant i've got plans with my family etc). I ended up hating myself because a few of my lies got sussed and i got a bit of a bad reputation. I learned from that tho, and now I really have cut down. I still let the odd porkie out but who doesnt!!!! :lol: