Do you find the world intimidating?

[emre43]

I have always found the world intimidating. I'm only 21 and live with my parents but I have never had a job either. However, I have been seeing a counsellor and have started to do things that I would never have done before and I now want a job and my own place. The thing is though that I am so intimidated by the wider world and I don't think that I would now how to look after myself. I feel so naive when it comes to what to do as an independent adult. Things like money and time management scare me. Does anyone else feel this way and if so how did/do you deal with it?

 

[burdeninyourhands]

You seem pretty lucky to have the option to avoid such matters in life, if something unforeseen should happen you would have no choice but to be a adult. Count your blessings and hopefully you can get over your problems.

 

[emmbai1990]

Yeh i'm scared of the world somewhat, i'm more scared of how my whole life will turn out and that it will stay in the confused, lonely mess i'm in right now. I want to be happy, loved and one day find the most sweet, caring, generous, funny, charming and loyal guy ever who will take care of me forever and ever cos i'm a sweet girl too whos got a lot to give in my heart. Only thing is though i doubt a guy would stay interested that long because in myself i'm not really sure about much, id totally be sure if i found the right guy though but even that's hard, when i was younger i thought that love isn't has hard everything else that it has to be easier than everything else, simple and would just make things be alright and it wouldn't have much problems if i found the right person but then i started going to clubs till i was 20 then i made some mistakes so i stopped because i wasn't really putting myself in a good atmosphere, i learned what guys are really like and how they are a lot more immature than us girls, of course there's a few mature guys but i feel like most just won't really try at all any more, they think it's all just so easy even just getting to know each other, they try and rush everything, they try and get to know everything about me with a few weeks to a month, i have no idea how i'm supposed to do that and i just feel so pressured so i just don't like most guys these days, they annoy me so much. My sleeping sucks really, i stay up too late cos i have so much going through my head it doesn;t shut off that easy really, I'm good with money i mean i'm responsible with what i buy and i only buy things i do need just i dunno where i'm going really, just so confused.

 

[planemo]

I have always found the world intimidating. I'm only 21 and live with my parents but I have never had a job either. However, I have been seeing a counsellor and have started to do things that I would never have done before and I now want a job and my own place. The thing is though that I am so intimidated by the wider world and I don't think that I would now how to look after myself. I feel so naive when it comes to what to do as an independent adult. Things like money and time management scare me. Does anyone else feel this way and if so how did/do you deal with it?

Yep I can relate. I can't really say I've found a way of conquering it, but taking small steps of exposure can help. Try doing simple activities when handling money, and work your way up from there to the more complicated ones.

 

[Helmaninquiel]

I'm in the same boat as you
I live with my mom and I've
never had a job, I took care
of my grandfather for four
years and he paid me, so I
never had to work not to mention
I wouldn't leave my house. Yes
the world defiantly intimidates me
a lot but my mom isn't going to be
around forever, she still has a long
time to go but not forever so I have
to do something about my situation
sooner or later.

 

[Steppen-Wolf]

I find the world to be really intimidating, being from where I am doensn't help either .

But that's life, I always try to keep in mind that even with SA my life is easier than most humans in the world... I just have to be brave and take on life one day at the time.

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

I find I intimidate the world; that's why it hides from me... ::

 

[mikebird]

The wide world does not scare me. If a dragon, or a person tore my head off or totured me, and i died, i'd accept it, and relax. I'm used to pain after operation, and more.

What i cannot deal with in this life are: law, and being prevented from working or having a relationship or a job i want, because the person will find someone else better. That brings me to an infinite tumult of horror and rage. As a decent, kind person, i am riled by what happens in life. I may resort to physical violence toward others as the only way out in life.

 

[coyote]

...As a decent, kind person, i am riled by what happens in life. I may resort to physical violence toward others as the only way out in life.

there is an apparent paradox here

if you resorted to violence, you would no longer be a decent, kind person



perhaps the solution can be found by looking inside yourself

rather than at the world outside you

 

[johannes]

there are many "worlds" in this planet, i would say, mine is intimidating, otherwise i wouldn't feel the urge to escape from time to time.

 

[emre43]

A couple of other things I forgot to mention are that I have never cooked anything and wouldn't know where to begin to save my life. I also am very naive when it comes to adult conversations, i.e. politics, mortgages, property, etc. I want to be able to do these things but I just don't know what to say or do.

 

[shaneyy]

Thats exactly how I feel but coz im a man I have to hide it lol its not nice, and well done, how can I upload a pic?x

 

[MrJones]

Nope.

The world is beautiful, (some) people are intimidating.

 

[FriendlessGirl]

Yes,i find the world intimidating.It scares the hell out of me.I wonder how I'm going to face the world as an adult.

 

[goldatom]

I find the working world intimidating. I find most working people egotistical jerks who are more interested in money and showing off rather than in work. They judge me and stare at me to make fun of me. Well what the heck, life isn't only about getting things from others (profit) or making fun of others. It's about cooperation and doing worthwhile work. And of course, this happens too. But it's the egotistical and rude part which makes things difficult for me.

Oh well. To hell with them.

 

[Paahi]

Yes very much so.

 

[emmbai1990]

I guess the more you know you will be alright, cooking can be easy if you learn, ask your parents or someone to teach you how to, the easiest things to cook is pasta, rice, noodles, scrambled/fried egg, ready made prawns, carrots, jacket potatoe, ready made frozen peas. Pasta and rice takes about 12 mins in a pan of hot water (on full heat) with a sprikle of salt (helps the water to react more to the heat on the stove) be careful with how much rice and pasta you put in, especaillly rice, a little of it expands into a lot so if you just want some for 1 person your better off just using 2 hanfuls, i think about 3 handfuls for pasta, if your cooking whole grain rice it takes about half an hour, whole wheat pasta takes the same amount of time as just the usual pasta. Scrambled egg, just put 2 eggs in a pan with a bit of butter on the pan so it doesn't stick, with some milk mixed in with the egg (never use water it makes it sloppy), and just keep letting it cook and braking it up with a fork or a whisker if you want, both work just as good, you can add cheese to it if you want too here's a video on how to make it: Basic Cookin' | Scrambled Eggs with Cheese - YouTube there's some handy videos for basic cooking on youtube. ready made peas and prawns you just stick them on full heat for about 5 - 6 mins with a sprinkle of salt and that's you .

 

[Error]

I do, too! Since I was a little kid, I looked at the adults and I feared getting old. I was afraid of my 18th anniversary. I'm 28 now, and I'm still scared of the world. I am not independent too. I'm afraid of my future, and if and how I'll manage to survive it.

 

[Timz]

you kiddin me. the world is HORRENDOUS. It is not only us feeling this at these forums for 'social anxiety' ---SO many people feel this. It is based on violence, war, invasions, dropping bombs on innocent children and grownups, animals, ---even the honeybee is under threat in this 'world'. It is very very bad indeed. Students are made to be in severe debt just to get an 'education' and people who cannot cope with the brutality of it all are persecuted by the State, of having their welfare stopped etc. There are homeless people having to live on the cold dirty dangerous streets. Planet Earth is under attack on all sides. This world is insane.

 

[emre43]

you kiddin me. the world is HORRENDOUS. It is not only us feeling this at these forums for 'social anxiety' ---SO many people feel this. It is based on violence, war, invasions, dropping bombs on innocent children and grownups, animals, ---even the honeybee is under threat in this 'world'. It is very very bad indeed. Students are made to be in severe debt just to get an 'education' and people who cannot cope with the brutality of it all are persecuted by the State, of having their welfare stopped etc. There are homeless people having to live on the cold dirty dangerous streets. Planet Earth is under attack on all sides. This world is insane.

That's all true. Although, it wasn't what I was talking about at all. I was talking about the fact that I am initimidated by the smaller, simpler things in life that others seem to take in their stride.