charlieHungerford
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I am wondering if people feel inferior to people and if so, is your anxiety at its strongest around these people?
I am thinking this could be a good way to help each other realise that we are not inferior to these people, but subconsciously we feel we are not good enough compared to them and our confidence just drains because of these feelings.
I am going to work on overcoming the inferiority I feel around women (my age), authority and meeting new people who I have to interact with in terms of having to chat for a bit with them.
My reasons for feeling inferior is because around women my age I don't feel I am good enough for any women to ever be interested in me, I feel they just think I'm a piece of crap. At the same time I have beliefs that women are so looks orientated and judge men on how they look. Authority like my boss I feel he is so powerful and can tell me to jump or dance or whatever he wants and I have to do it. I feel like a nothing around him, I feel I have no power, etc, and therefore feel so irrelevant.
New people - well I judge people fairly and nicely, I seem to have this inner belief that people can only look at me one way - negatively. Therefore from the word go I feel inferior as I am judging them as good enough whilst judging myself as not good enough.
Its time to analyse these beliefs - brainstorm the reasons why I feel like that, then address each issue, understand its wrong, negative, extreme, biased, etc. Then understand the true way to think of the person you fear. Its also crucial to believe in yourself, need to think of ourselves in a positive way in which we have so much to offer, we are such a good person, we are good enough for anyone.
So who are you inferior to? Do you know why? And how is your SA around these people?
I am thinking this could be a good way to help each other realise that we are not inferior to these people, but subconsciously we feel we are not good enough compared to them and our confidence just drains because of these feelings.
I am going to work on overcoming the inferiority I feel around women (my age), authority and meeting new people who I have to interact with in terms of having to chat for a bit with them.
My reasons for feeling inferior is because around women my age I don't feel I am good enough for any women to ever be interested in me, I feel they just think I'm a piece of crap. At the same time I have beliefs that women are so looks orientated and judge men on how they look. Authority like my boss I feel he is so powerful and can tell me to jump or dance or whatever he wants and I have to do it. I feel like a nothing around him, I feel I have no power, etc, and therefore feel so irrelevant.
New people - well I judge people fairly and nicely, I seem to have this inner belief that people can only look at me one way - negatively. Therefore from the word go I feel inferior as I am judging them as good enough whilst judging myself as not good enough.
Its time to analyse these beliefs - brainstorm the reasons why I feel like that, then address each issue, understand its wrong, negative, extreme, biased, etc. Then understand the true way to think of the person you fear. Its also crucial to believe in yourself, need to think of ourselves in a positive way in which we have so much to offer, we are such a good person, we are good enough for anyone.
So who are you inferior to? Do you know why? And how is your SA around these people?