Do you ever feel your getting better then it all goes wrong?

[blue]

Thats were i am right now, ive spent the last couple of months learning to deal with my anxiety and pushing my boundries further.

Ive been talking to people and smiling lots and though im still anxiouse im trying not to let it take over. My councillor says its not a crime to be anxiouse and people arnt as bad as i think they are.

I found out today that oh yes they are!! Im a mum and most of my socialising revolves around other parents and school situations.
I managed to make a couple of friends among the parents though i find it hard to cope when i have to face them every day its hard to explain but i get really pannicky.

Anyway my neighbour is ignoring me (her son is in my daughters class )and she has always spoken to me and now she completly blanks me its horrible and other people do too now

I know it sounds like a sob story and i should just get over it but im a really nice person and it hurts so much that people can be that way im just anxiouse and sensitive.......i think criminals get off lighter!

Anyone else suffering the cold shoulder?

 

[miss_amy]

I know exactly how you feel and I believe you that people really are that shallow. The parents in the school playground to me seem the worst! I've had one woman try and steal my husband and got the grumps with me because he wasn't interested. I've had others shun me when the kids fall out, how stupid.
Sometimes people translate our anxiety as us being rude which then makes this happen.

 

[coriander1992]

You could so easily just end up hating all people when you have SA :lol: You just gotta keep pushing yourself like you have been doing, despite the pathetic attitudes of some :roll:

 

[miss_amy]

My therapy lady told me that the road to recovery is not straight. It's windy and bends back to where you almost started but you are still moving forward along it.
This helps me through the bad patches. That's what they are , just a rough patch. It will get better again.

 

[shield]

Yeah the cold shoulder is an inevitable part of attempting to socialise. Progress is exactly like the stock market; It goes up and down but it will go up in the long term.

 

[toothpastekisses]

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[Lexmark]

I always seem to sabotage myself wenever it seems like im turning the corner.
I have found even when i have put myself out there and even made freinds im always uncomftable and get no enjoyment out of it.

 

[bleach]

Yeah, I feel doomed sometimes, like I'm not meant to get better. I'd be feeling really great then something happens, like someone looks at me funny or talks to me in a patronising way, and it's back to square one. I heard my parents saying they thought might be manic depressive once, which was very irritating as everytime I try to tell them abut SA they just laugh it off.
I'm going to try to embrace all the ups and downs of recovery from now on and remind myself that the downs can make me more resiliant, if anything.

Yeah i feel the same way. it seems like my biggest setbacks come from my own mind.

 

[Flaming_Badger]

Aye, its almost like a mild form of bipolar, spells of being ok always lead to massive crashes, the most that can be done is to keep the good spells going. Frustrating as it is, it never seems to last.

I also notice it doesn't even have to be kicked off by anything in particular, you just get that sinking feeling from nowhere and you know its about to start again.

 

[Strong_Silent_One]

I'd be feeling really great then something happens, like someone looks at me funny or talks to me in a patronising way, and it's back to square one.

Yeah that same thing happens to me all the time from a year ago. I feel like people needs to feel superior so they can afford the fear they have agaisnt me. I have realised some envy me or feel threatened by my really strong appearence, and that makes them attack me (psichologically). And of course that doesn't help me overcomming SP at all...
I think i could avoid that by appearing more... dunno... silly or funny... you know... not so serious :roll: but it's just how i am!

 

[2Crowded]

Yes.... especialy today

 

[thumbs]

yep then everything comes crashing down.