Do you ever feel really bad over the tiniest things

[Snowdrop]

I'm always like that, even though I know I shouldn't dwell on it. I'm also really paranoid about saying the wrong thing, and offending people.
For example today in college we exchanged secret santa presents, it included 3 other friends and myself all girls. One person's half secret santa present was still waiting in the post and she was telling us what it was and how she also was going to bake cupcakes to give to her. I thought it was sweet and said without thinking "oh i wish you were my secret santa next time" and then immediately felt terrible when she and the person who gave me my secret santa started laughing but it also felt really awkward. It wasn't that I was ungrateful as I loved my present but it really sounded harsh and I've just been beating myself up over it. I tried to say I didn't mean it like that but it just failed and she said 'it's fine' she seemed like she was ok with it but I still feel like she doesn't like me as much anymore which is really childish and low of me to think she'd be that petty but for some reason it still makes me paranoid.
I know it isn't a massive thing to be getting upset over but for someone who has SA and always worrying about what others think, just makes the feelings all the more worse. I wish I could get over it, grr.

Has anyone had a similar experience or feel like this? =(

 

[Klaus]

"Chronic remorse, as all the moralists are agreed, is a most undesirable sentiment. If you have behaved badly, repent, make what amends you can and address yourself to the task of behaving better next time. On no account brood over your wrongdoing. Rolling in the muck is not the best way of getting clean."
— Aldous Huxley (Brave New World)

 

[SonicMan]

It is such a horrible feeling when that happens. When I say or do things I often worry if I caused any offence. It doesn't help that I have trouble using the correct tone of voice and that just adds to the worrying. It is so fustrating but I know that it is pointless to worry about it so I try not to.

 

[Snowdrop]

"Chronic remorse, as all the moralists are agreed, is a most undesirable sentiment. If you have behaved badly, repent, make what amends you can and address yourself to the task of behaving better next time. On no account brood over your wrongdoing. Rolling in the muck is not the best way of getting clean."
— Aldous Huxley (Brave New World)

Very true.

It is such a horrible feeling when that happens. When I say or do things I often worry if I caused any offence. It doesn't help that I have trouble using the correct tone of voice and that just adds to the worrying. It is so fustrating but I know that it is pointless to worry about it so I try not to.

Yeah the tone of voice is definitely something I've got to work on as well because people always get the wrong message. You're right about not thinking about it that much but it's so difficult..

 

[mmmm]

"Chronic remorse, as all the moralists are agreed, is a most undesirable sentiment. If you have behaved badly, repent, make what amends you can and address yourself to the task of behaving better next time. On no account brood over your wrongdoing. Rolling in the muck is not the best way of getting clean."
— Aldous Huxley (Brave New World)

This really touched me. Thank you.