DO we have a right to be p'd off with people?

[xtina_fan81]

I find myself angry at alot of people, mainly because I end up the one left out, wherever i go whoever i meet, and i know its simply because i don't talk enough. EVeryone else is just living their lives like we would if we COULD; do we have a right to be mad at them for not being understanding or being there when we need them? especially for the few of us who might have a slight chance of maintaining friendships; how much should we expect from these people? what is just normal reaction to something unusual (Us) and what is simply out of order, selfish behavior? I find myself angry at people but i dont know if they're really doing anything wrong. Obvsly its part jealously, but that aside i dont know how much i should be expecting as i KNOW theres a limit to what they can say or do, but i think its hard as a SA sufferer to know what the line is between a "good "or "bad" person.
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[Apachealt]

It's okay to be angry, just don't lash out at anyone or make it skew your judgment. I have learned to make it a non issue.

 

[mikestar]

Its a dog eat dog world everyone out for themselves,dont give a shit who they hurt

 

[Rodney]

I say you have a right to be angry with someone if they have caused you harm... Because of this I am angry with a lot of people lol

 

[doesit]

i find myself often angry or pissed of about other people for stupid reasons like their style or behaviour,but then i think why the f**k i do that,its pure waist of time and energy towards someone i wont probably see again in my life

 

[Anubis]

Do you ONLY feel anger after these situations? Or is it followed up with a bottom-dwelling sense of shame as well?

 

[thor01]

I find myself angry at alot of people, mainly because I end up the one left out, wherever i go whoever i meet, and i know its simply because i don't talk enough. EVeryone else is just living their lives like we would if we COULD; do we have a right to be mad at them for not being understanding or being there when we need them? especially for the few of us who might have a slight chance of maintaining friendships; how much should we expect from these people? what is just normal reaction to something unusual (Us) and what is simply out of order, selfish behavior? I find myself angry at people but i dont know if they're really doing anything wrong. Obvsly its part jealously, but that aside i dont know how much i should be expecting as i KNOW theres a limit to what they can say or do, but i think its hard as a SA sufferer to know what the line is between a "good "or "bad" person.
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I really can relate to this, I feel the same way. I feel left out in nearly all situations. I think a lot of the time for me, its just me being jealous rather than people being bad.

 

[Septor]

Yes you do.You having a legitimate reason to be mad at certain people.Unfortunately it's probably more complicate then that,when you are dealing with people.You have to think why you are angry,is it from jealousy or from how they treated you or if it's a combination of both.There some really nasty people out there.Some I wouldn't mind throwing into a prison cell for the ten years or something like that::.

That being said,it's not good to let all that anger builds up in you.I know from personnel experience what happens when you let all that anger stir inside you.Sooner or late it's going to eat you from the in side out.::

 

[this_portrait]

I tend to find myself more annoyed with people. For example, if someone spends some time talking to me, and then later on they don't talk to me, I find myself wondering, 'Why the hell won't you talk to me?' This is especially true when it comes to the opposite sex. It sucks because it's either expect others to talk to me, or just not talk to them at all because of my phobia. Once I give up waiting for the person to talk to me, I think something along the lines of, 'Fine then,' and go about with my business.

 

[PennyLane]

Actually i find im mostly just angry at myself...I get very frustrated but all the anger is directed at me. If i dont talk to people how will they know i want to be involved. Also I do actually get invited to things quite often...my problem is that I say NO! Thats where i get pissed off. People reach out to me over and over again but i get scared and stay home bored and alone.

I have no one to blame but myself!

 

[zlench]

At the end of the day people are just looking out for themselves and not interested in anybody else.

 

[Anastasia]

At the end of the day people are just looking out for themselves and not interested in anybody else.

Yeah unfortunately that's absolutely right, it's basic human nature and ultimately the bottom line in most situations.

However we still have every right to be angry if people hurt us, just like everybody else does.

It's best to use this sort of anger as motivation to look after youself and advance your own interests - not at the expense of others but still, to take responsibility for making sure our own needs are met. Other people are all too happy to muscle their own way in and take advantage of situations in their own favour if we don't.

Don't know if this is quite what you meant but it's something I'm having to learn and just maybe having a bit of a rant....

I have problems too with knowing what a "good" or "bad" person is sometimes. When something taps into one of my insecurities I have to try and figure if they were doing it on purpose or had no idea that I would take it that way, and that it was my own intpretation of the event that caused my negative reaction.

I had a lot of the "left out" experience when I was younger. Looking back on that now I can see it was merely because I wasn't reciprocating or initiating enough and nothing any more sinister than that. People respond if you're friendly and open. It's as simple as that.

 

[SnowWolf]

Simply going supermarket shopping had me silently seething yesterday and I got annoyed at myself that I felt that way. Everyone just felt so slow and in the way, like a bunch of blokey guys talking about one of them getting rid of his truck while they blocked the soft drink isle. A little thing like that somehow leaves me with a hatred of humanity.

 

[206Raider]

I thought about this too, I never get mad at people becuase I'm not sure I really have a right too. I mean what can I say? if I say anything somebody could jsut call me a waste of a human being (like someone has) and it's true. I'm pretty much here for the ride of life unwillingly so it's like I don't have a right to tell people what they should or shouldn't do...

that and the fact that the last time I got mad I blacked out and started cussing and calling my dad a faggot and he had a stroke that day and I was blamed by everyone on my dad's side of family for causing it. I also told my stepdad I would kill him, so everyone says I go pyscho when I get mad so I just keep my frustration in silence cuz when I speak I black out mad, I haven't showed any anger emotions to anyone since my dad's stroke like 3 years ago