singing-love
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So, I have a younger brother and from a very young age I've cared for him like I would my own child. As a result we are very close and he confides in me, I'm the first person he comes to with his problems and the first person he asks for advice. We've been close for as long as I can remember, I taught him to read and make his lunches, whatever he wanted I did my best as his sister to provide it. He is so important to me and I have spent my life protecting him from the abuse within our own home. I was lucky that I did manage this, he was never directly abused and I took the blame for so many things for him so that he could be spared. I wouldn't change a thing, I would happily take anything for that boy.
However, lately things are changing. We're older now (he's 15 to my 17) and sometimes I just don't have the answers anymore. My brother is becoming very dishonest and things are going downhill quickly. My brother has been self harming and it's been happening for a while now. I've known for over six months now, I've hidden it from our father (not hard because it's just the three of us and he works a lot), I cleaned the wounds everytime and talked with him about what's been going on to cause it. It breaks my heart to see this, we didn't have an easy childhood and I fought to keep him from at least the physical violence and I did that, I kept him away from what happened as best I could. But now he's hurting himself and I can't fix that, I'm not a doctor nor am I a counsellor. So I did the only thing I could and told my family, I took him to counsellors and helped when no one else wanted to step up.
Lately he just lies, about absolutely everything and after discussing this issue with a professional she believes that being surrounded by a lifetime of drama, even though it was never directed at him has become "normal" for him. Drama has become like a need because it's what he knows best. I did something I am not proud of which brought me to this thread. He's still hurting himself and again only I know. But with all the lies I don't know what's going on so I looked at his phone. I was shocked to find a string of girls he was "dating" but if that isn't bad enough he told one that he had a weak form of cancer (which is not something to lie about). I know I shouldn't have looked in his phone, it was wrong of me. But, now I don't know what to do with the information I posses.... I feel it needs to be addressed but I don't know how and honestly I'm worried. What's happened to get to this point? I don't know what to do.
However, lately things are changing. We're older now (he's 15 to my 17) and sometimes I just don't have the answers anymore. My brother is becoming very dishonest and things are going downhill quickly. My brother has been self harming and it's been happening for a while now. I've known for over six months now, I've hidden it from our father (not hard because it's just the three of us and he works a lot), I cleaned the wounds everytime and talked with him about what's been going on to cause it. It breaks my heart to see this, we didn't have an easy childhood and I fought to keep him from at least the physical violence and I did that, I kept him away from what happened as best I could. But now he's hurting himself and I can't fix that, I'm not a doctor nor am I a counsellor. So I did the only thing I could and told my family, I took him to counsellors and helped when no one else wanted to step up.
Lately he just lies, about absolutely everything and after discussing this issue with a professional she believes that being surrounded by a lifetime of drama, even though it was never directed at him has become "normal" for him. Drama has become like a need because it's what he knows best. I did something I am not proud of which brought me to this thread. He's still hurting himself and again only I know. But with all the lies I don't know what's going on so I looked at his phone. I was shocked to find a string of girls he was "dating" but if that isn't bad enough he told one that he had a weak form of cancer (which is not something to lie about). I know I shouldn't have looked in his phone, it was wrong of me. But, now I don't know what to do with the information I posses.... I feel it needs to be addressed but I don't know how and honestly I'm worried. What's happened to get to this point? I don't know what to do.