Did you feel guilty when you started posting?

@lyricalliaisons

I never felt guilty at all (there's no reason I can see to feel guilty). But I did feel absolutely humiliated. Especially after I started posting about all of my inexperiences & realizing that most people here were not like me. But I've been here a while now & realize that there are people my age, & even older, who have very similar inexperience issues to my own. So I feel better about posting on forums, etc. now.

Oh wow, that's a fantastic way of looking at it. C; I hope I'll come that far in time. :3

Thank you for sharing. ^W^
 

vj288

not actually Fiona Apple
I feel stupid a lot of the time after I post. I tend to go on a bit too much but don't realize til after I've hit 'post reply'. I also miss the point a lot I think and go off on my own tangent. I also say too much about my personal life which I regret later...I've considered deleting some of my old posts where I feel that I have divulged more than what I'm comfortable with, but end up leaving it because I think 'well all these people have already seen it I may as well leave it now or I'll look weak'... idk :/

^That exactly
 

DanFC

Well-known member
I always feel guilty b/c I think I'm wasting other people's time and energy. I wish I could contribute more to what other people post to make up for this, but I just don't ever know what to say.
 

SilverRain

Active member
Yes, sadly. With any luck it'll change with time and I'll adjust, but currently I always feel that if my posts are too positive then I'm being insensitive to those who're in a bad patch, but if I come off as too negative then I'm dragging people down or sound like a whiner when there are clearly those who have it worse than myself.

Inadequacy can be a bit of a problem along with the guilt as well, whenever others mention something that bothers them, but doesn't bother me. Or when others have a ton of good advice to give and I can't offer a single thing to help. I always feel like a leech if I just take, take, take, but can't give the same equivalent back. I really don't mean to be selfish or insensitive, it's just that I haven't yet had enough influential experiences to share any such wisdom. I honestly would if I could.

I think it's because of my need to feel like I fit somewhere and have a significant role to play, and when I can't connect or offer something useful, I feel like I'm trapped behind my wall again. Even when I do have something to say, it takes me forever to put it into a coherent sentence I'm satisfied with, and by then someone else has usually beaten me to it.

It might take me a little while but I've got a fair few things I need to work on improving, I think. Not giving up though, since if nothing else I'm a persistent sort. :3
 
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