IcarusUnderWater
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IcarusUnderWater said:Infected_Malignity said:stop beating yourself up over it. it's anxiety, and anxiety isn't always as deeply rooted as you might think. in reality, you didn't do shit to make this happen. it's not like you fucked up real bad and ended up this way as a consequence, right? so why rip yourself apart over it?
social anxiety is no different from regular-ass anxiety. would you blame yourself for being afraid of something other than social embarrassment? think about it. now add the word cockroach to your dictionary. now say TARANTULA!!
i got this ebook from the nets that would be right up your alley... it's less than a meg and it's packed with info (short reader though) about social and generalized anxiety. PM me if you want it, dude. and do yourself a favor: stop blaming yourself homie!!
Hey malig, thanks for your reply. I don't beat myself up about it per say... it's more that i know i have ultimate control over it but i don't know how to use that control to defeat the anxiety which boils in to frustration. Is the book on torrent?
I agree that anxiety isn't that deep rooted but it just feels like it is... and i haven't experienced normal (relaxed) interaction for a looooong time. What's the book called please?
edit: I rip myself up over everything. I need to get out of my self fulfilling prophecies............
edit2: ok i admit it... i feel sorry for myself. It is the only way out at times. :roll:
I think being nice and charitable is considered a sign of weakness, so yeah i think it makes you a target, sad as that is. A bully would much rather poke fun at a nice (seemingly weak) person then another bully.miss_amy said:Do you think that the anxiety sends out signals, almost makes us targets for people to treat us badly. I feel like I am a nice person, give far more than I take and I have definitely had more than my fair share of bullying and nastiness. There has to be something about me that sends off signals that says I'm a target. I wasn't bullied at school its as an adult.
Gone said:I think being nice and charitable is considered a sign of weakness, so yeah i think it makes you a target, sad as that is. A bully would much rather poke fun at a nice (seemingly weak) person then another bully.miss_amy said:Do you think that the anxiety sends out signals, almost makes us targets for people to treat us badly. I feel like I am a nice person, give far more than I take and I have definitely had more than my fair share of bullying and nastiness. There has to be something about me that sends off signals that says I'm a target. I wasn't bullied at school its as an adult.
Ive often pondered this in the past, what would happen if i just let go of all the morals and just became a selfish bastard, lying when it suits me, doing whatever i want without any concern for my fellow humans, i would probably be better off today if i did.