Dealing with difficult people -- Ajahn Brahm

[hardy]

Dealing With Difficult People - YouTube

 

[hardy]

There's always room in my small little world for new ideas. But I strongly disagree with what I saw in this video - at least in many real life inapplicable situations where people bully. I would much rather stand up for myself.

Buddha never said to believe his words...he asked us to investigate his teachings. In fact Buddha asked us to avoid evil people, especially if you are not strong mentally.And also...don't forget Ajahn Brahm is not a Buddha (the supremely enlightened man), he can make mistakes. And then we might misinterpret what Ajahn said.

“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”
-- Buddha

 

[gustavofring]

I don't think these teachings mean that you can't stand up for yourself and that you should tolerate bad behavior. But you can do so from a peaceful, compassionate mindset instead of a reactive resistance pattern that only creates pain and suffering.

 

[hardy]

Thank you for having exceptional patience with me. I understand very clearly how my message sounds very combative and negative in a place of healing. This is my own struggle that I'm working through and I need to be more considerate. Whatever the case, I really appreciate that you took the time to post these videos hardy.

Thank you for your inputs. This world would be stupider without people who have a different point of view. Most people are like sheep's, just living a life of Ignorance. You have the intelligence to ask questions...and that's the first step to living a good life according to Buddha. Thank you for being yourselves, i like people who speak their mind. I should learn to be like that more often.

Your message doesn't sound negative or combative...you are curious and have doubts about Ajahn's points which i think is a great way of learning. Thank you for being curious and expressing them .

I have difficulty sometimes with bullies and authoritative people. I am learning to say,' stop using high pitch vs me or i would hurt you back' and also sometimes letting things go as the boss has the responsibility of utilizing his employees to the best for better outputs . There are people who don't listen unless shouted to.We would understand this when we are the boss and have bigger responsibilities. Or when we are parents and our kids are playing with knives and wont listen to us. Shouting/raising voice always doesn't mean they hate us.

I never came across people who committed crimes or assaults, i am not sure how to deal with them !! Life is about learning from experiences...isn't it? Ajahn brahm can only have a say...it's us who have to live intelligently.