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I am new to this website and I have been wondering for some time now how and if cognitive behavioral therapy will work for me. I know a little about psychology and how this type of therapy is supposed to work, but, well I find it rather difficult to believe that it will. I have had a general therapist before, about a year ago, and I quit seeing her because I didn't feel like it was helping and it really stressed me out. Which I thought was quite ironic. I mean really, it was supposed to help me, but it would stress me out instead. I would wait outside in the car dreading it every week.
Also, I don't really want to change the way I think about things. I think that requires changing myself and becoming optimistic instead of realistic. Yes, I think I am pretty realistic. I'm not terribly bad looking, terrible in social situations, or disliked by a ton of people. Well okay. So I am not confident at all about the last part. Well I am, but also I am not. And I think things are pretty bad now but could quite well maybe get better in the future. Hence the suicide is a bad option stance. Huh. It sounds from re-reading that partial paragraph that I should not be bothered by SAD at all.
Here's an example of how I am (I had more typed out before but I realized that it was extremely long):
To avoid a conversation: "Sorry, I can't talk to you right now because I'm reading a book. And trust me, I really need to read this book." (inner dialogue: uh-oh, this person might think I won't want to talk to him/her) "It's for homework." (quick! why can't I do this at home) "And I'm so swamped right now, we've got that calc quiz and everything. I'm a little afraid of that." (I can't believe people are actually worried about that) "So I'll talk to you tomorrow then" (Ahhhh that sounded so awkward, what else could you say to make up for it? How many times can I say something awkward and still have this person be my friend? Oh no, you've waited too long. You'll have to make up for that conversation tomorrow. Oh no, that's even more stressful. Look at the book! She'll think you were lying if you don't start reading. My back hurts, I want to lay down. I can't! She might see you! Why is that bad? You'll look weird lying down. Sit up straight then, that'll help the pain. But then anyone who sees you might think you're pompous. Ahh the word pompous sounds pompous, good thing you didn't actually say that out loud. *looks around.* Woah, no one's even looking at me. How can they do that, don't they realize I might be looking at them? Don't they care?)
Also, I don't really want to change the way I think about things. I think that requires changing myself and becoming optimistic instead of realistic. Yes, I think I am pretty realistic. I'm not terribly bad looking, terrible in social situations, or disliked by a ton of people. Well okay. So I am not confident at all about the last part. Well I am, but also I am not. And I think things are pretty bad now but could quite well maybe get better in the future. Hence the suicide is a bad option stance. Huh. It sounds from re-reading that partial paragraph that I should not be bothered by SAD at all.
Here's an example of how I am (I had more typed out before but I realized that it was extremely long):
To avoid a conversation: "Sorry, I can't talk to you right now because I'm reading a book. And trust me, I really need to read this book." (inner dialogue: uh-oh, this person might think I won't want to talk to him/her) "It's for homework." (quick! why can't I do this at home) "And I'm so swamped right now, we've got that calc quiz and everything. I'm a little afraid of that." (I can't believe people are actually worried about that) "So I'll talk to you tomorrow then" (Ahhhh that sounded so awkward, what else could you say to make up for it? How many times can I say something awkward and still have this person be my friend? Oh no, you've waited too long. You'll have to make up for that conversation tomorrow. Oh no, that's even more stressful. Look at the book! She'll think you were lying if you don't start reading. My back hurts, I want to lay down. I can't! She might see you! Why is that bad? You'll look weird lying down. Sit up straight then, that'll help the pain. But then anyone who sees you might think you're pompous. Ahh the word pompous sounds pompous, good thing you didn't actually say that out loud. *looks around.* Woah, no one's even looking at me. How can they do that, don't they realize I might be looking at them? Don't they care?)