Kinda new here I've done a lot of reading though and I was thinking of trying to help myself by just forcing myself into more social situations and trying to make me think more positively which sounds easy but I can imagine it to be extremely hard. People seem to make it out to be impossible has anyone seen any cases or have their own stories. o-o
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Most of everyone here has a hard time with it but it's possible! I'm proof of that. I'm sure it varies with people but a combination of talking with someone and just getting f*cking fed up with feeling like crap made me want to change. So I did and it feels great.
I'm not saying that I don't my self conscious moments but they're few and far between now. It's just mind over...mind I suppose.
I'm not saying that I don't my self conscious moments but they're few and far between now. It's just mind over...mind I suppose.
Hi Wtfawk, welcome to spw! I
try not to think of it as "forcing" myself into social situations but rather convincing myself that there's really nothing to be afraid of. I think self-esteem and self confidence are the issues that cause a lot of people with SA to allow their negative thoughts to take control of their lives.
What's helped me most is having goals for myself and working toward them, rather than just hap-hazardly throwing myself into the world and expecting to "get over it". Sometimes it seems like my whole life people who didn't understand my SA would tell me that I just need to get over it, but it just doesn't work that way. Overcoming little things will help a lot with SA and feeling like you've accomplished something or really challenged yourself makes each situation a little easier, imo. For example, after I'd done about ten job interviews I started to actually enjoy the immense feeling of relief and accomplishment that i'd get afterward and looked forward to having that feeling again...it's like turning it around so that the anxiety you experience is less important than the feeling of being proud of yourself for stepping out of your comfort zone. So, yeah, sorry for the rant, the moral is of course it's possible. Make a plan and treat it like a goal rather than a setback. Hope this helps.
try not to think of it as "forcing" myself into social situations but rather convincing myself that there's really nothing to be afraid of. I think self-esteem and self confidence are the issues that cause a lot of people with SA to allow their negative thoughts to take control of their lives.
What's helped me most is having goals for myself and working toward them, rather than just hap-hazardly throwing myself into the world and expecting to "get over it". Sometimes it seems like my whole life people who didn't understand my SA would tell me that I just need to get over it, but it just doesn't work that way. Overcoming little things will help a lot with SA and feeling like you've accomplished something or really challenged yourself makes each situation a little easier, imo. For example, after I'd done about ten job interviews I started to actually enjoy the immense feeling of relief and accomplishment that i'd get afterward and looked forward to having that feeling again...it's like turning it around so that the anxiety you experience is less important than the feeling of being proud of yourself for stepping out of your comfort zone. So, yeah, sorry for the rant, the moral is of course it's possible. Make a plan and treat it like a goal rather than a setback. Hope this helps.
philly2bits
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I'd do more except my problem seems to be finding something I'd actually be interested in doing. There is no shortage of social situations I could force myself to go to, but in most cases I wouldn't be interested in them enough to put much effort into having a good time.
Im gonna force myself to take a public speaking class. May the force be with me
Good Luck