Geo
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I broke up with my girlfriend of 15 months yesterday and it's killing me. We were very close, and have had a few fall outs before but were able to make up. However this time I fear it's permanent.
The past week she has been acting very bizarre and distant. She has been acting sassy to me, her parents, and her grandparents. We usually have great long talks over texts/skype but the past week I could barely squeeze 2 words out of her at a time. Christmas Eve came and like last year we hung out. This was the breaking point. We just sat there on different couches watching TV. Her attitude was horrible, and I couldn't even get a hug out of her before leaving that night for Christmas.
Now yesterday I confronted her about it (over text) and the conversation went something like this:
Me: "Okay so I'm done trying to make this work. If you don't put in the effort to talk to me from now on, you're never going to hear from me again. I'm done trying."
Her: "There just isn't much interesting to say."
Me: "Your attitude on Christmas Eve was horrid. I'm not dating you anymore if you will continue to be like that. I'm fine not having anybody."
Her: "Sure didn't seem like it before but now I guess you're stronger than that."
Me: "I finally realized I have a good future. I'm taking my education very seriously now. If you want to downgrade for a different guy then by all means do so." (I realize I sounded conceited, but I needed to sound confident in this situation)
Her: "Up to you."
Me: "Haha you really don't care?"
Her: "I'm not holding you back from anything. There's no point in doing that to anyone."
Me: "This isn't about you holding me back. It never was. It's crystal clear you have no interest in me anymore."
Her: "Like I said I'm not keeping you hostage or anything."
Me: "That's how you want it to be...? Okay then. Happy New Year."
Her: "You too."
I've since tried to get in contact with her to no avail. She's not replying to any texts either. She has absolutely no interest in keeping me around as just a friend (we're childhood friends) either. I love her to death and she loved me just as much. So I don't know why this is happening, and I have no idea what options to take from here. She is very important to me (not just as a girlfriend) and I don't want to break contact forever.
tl;dr: I dumped my girlfriend because she was being bratty the past week. She doesn't care.
The past week she has been acting very bizarre and distant. She has been acting sassy to me, her parents, and her grandparents. We usually have great long talks over texts/skype but the past week I could barely squeeze 2 words out of her at a time. Christmas Eve came and like last year we hung out. This was the breaking point. We just sat there on different couches watching TV. Her attitude was horrible, and I couldn't even get a hug out of her before leaving that night for Christmas.
Now yesterday I confronted her about it (over text) and the conversation went something like this:
Me: "Okay so I'm done trying to make this work. If you don't put in the effort to talk to me from now on, you're never going to hear from me again. I'm done trying."
Her: "There just isn't much interesting to say."
Me: "Your attitude on Christmas Eve was horrid. I'm not dating you anymore if you will continue to be like that. I'm fine not having anybody."
Her: "Sure didn't seem like it before but now I guess you're stronger than that."
Me: "I finally realized I have a good future. I'm taking my education very seriously now. If you want to downgrade for a different guy then by all means do so." (I realize I sounded conceited, but I needed to sound confident in this situation)
Her: "Up to you."
Me: "Haha you really don't care?"
Her: "I'm not holding you back from anything. There's no point in doing that to anyone."
Me: "This isn't about you holding me back. It never was. It's crystal clear you have no interest in me anymore."
Her: "Like I said I'm not keeping you hostage or anything."
Me: "That's how you want it to be...? Okay then. Happy New Year."
Her: "You too."
I've since tried to get in contact with her to no avail. She's not replying to any texts either. She has absolutely no interest in keeping me around as just a friend (we're childhood friends) either. I love her to death and she loved me just as much. So I don't know why this is happening, and I have no idea what options to take from here. She is very important to me (not just as a girlfriend) and I don't want to break contact forever.
tl;dr: I dumped my girlfriend because she was being bratty the past week. She doesn't care.