birthday

[LazyHermitCrab]

For the first time i planned a party and invited 5 people total for a simple dinner. One of my good friends said sure and i told her i changed the date and told her who i was inviting and now she's ignoring me because i changed the date or maybe she hates the people i invited, who i like oviously lol. I gave her a couple days for options and she won't even say "no i have to".. I'm just upset as to why this would happen or should i just move on? It's just i went to her party with about 100 people. I didn't know anyone and litteraly said nothing but at least i was there, so thought she could at least do this :: Should I ask again or will it cause a fight? Yeah i obsess sometimes i suppose but.. eh.

 

[coyote]

For the first time i planned a party and invited 5 people total for a simple dinner. One of my good friends said sure and i told her i changed the date and told her who i was inviting and now she's ignoring me because i changed the date or maybe she hates the people i invited, who i like oviously lol. I gave her a couple days for options and she won't even say "no i have to".. I'm just upset as to why this would happen or should i just move on? It's just i went to her party with about 100 people. I didn't know anyone and litteraly said nothing but at least i was there, so thought she could at least do this :: Should I ask again or will it cause a fight? Yeah i obsess sometimes i suppose but.. eh.

i don't know how long it's been since you asked her

maybe she's not ignoring you

something else may have come up

maybe call her and speak directly

 

[DWToCd]

I agree ^^

You should just speak with her directly. Maybe she hasn't seen the message yet to be able to respond?

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

but i saw her comment on someone elses facebook page and i sent the message 2 days ago.... (i hate you facebook it would be best not to know)

 

[Feathers]

If she had a party with about 100 people, maybe she's one of those super-social people, and may be busy with other things too... Maybe none of the dates (or hours) is really good for her, or she might be shuffling several other things...? (maybe she might also hate small parties where you need to talk more, especially if she might be going through a hard time or such, or might prefer more 'superficial' gatherings with lots of people and dancing?)

Some people can have a busy week/month too, so yeah, it's best to directly call and ask if anything's wrong, or if it clashes with any of her other previous engagements/priorities...

If she's very important to you, you could ask her what day and hour would be best for her too, and see if you and other people could make it... (if their schedules might be less busy/crazy..)

Some people have jobs or eg volunteer work that goes crazy on certain months... (and a comment on FB may be easier than a whole evening somewhere...)

So, I think it's best to ask, but in a sort of casual/upbeat tone at first, 'Hey, what's up? Haven't heard from you...' and then check if anything might be wrong, or what it's at (maybe she's in love and on cloud nine and forgot about anything? Who knows? )

I'd call on her cellphone, sometimes it can be difficult to write some of these things... (especially on Facebook! )

 

[coyote]

but i saw her comment on someone elses facebook page and i sent the message 2 days ago.... (i hate you facebook it would be best not to know)

yeah, don't make assumptions until you talk to her

maybe she's trying to make arrangements before she answers

(part of the problem with FB and the like - face to face or phone calls are still the best way to communicate)