Forgotten-Children
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Not sure if this goes here, but I've been having this problem ever since I can remember.
No matter how hard I try, I can never find it in my heart to say that I don't want to do something for somebody. This has lead, pretty much, my entire family to ask me favors or even tell me to do something that I obviously don't want to do, but they know I won't try to stick up for myself.
These are somethings that have happened recently for me.
"Since you're working now, I expect you to help out the family and pay $100 a month." --Mom (Sure I'd like to help out the family but really, her and dad's bills aren't my problem. My main concern is my own bills and moving out.)
"Don't go on a shopping spree, you know you have to pay bills." --Mom (with this one I know I have to pay bills, but she shouldn't tell me what I HAVE to do with my money. I earned it. I should spend it how I want to)
"Hey, Sissy, can ya come in and help me close the shop?" --my little sister (As she walks home as soon as I get there so I'm stuck in Maid-Rite for an hour having to sweep and mop the entire thing. All she had to do was the ketchup bottles...)
"Sissy, can I borrow $40? I need a stress relief. I PROMISE I'll pay you back!" --my little sister (She asked me this during the time before I was working at Maid-Rite and she KNEW that she would of over-draw my account if she took that money seeing as I only had 2 bucks left in there. I kept saying no over and over but then she just closed the door to my room and practically begged me. I don't like the feeling about being trapped in a room because when she closed the door, I basicly felt cornered, so I caved...)
You get the point... Can anyone give me some advice? I can't keep doing this... And I'm not the only one who hates this, my boyfriend hates to see this happen to me. He keeps telling me, I gotta say no ESPECIALLY to my sister because I spoil her too much because I bail her out whenever she's bored or doesn't want to do something herself...
EDIT: With the "shopping spree" thing, it was as if my mom knew that I was gonna buy my boyfriend a present for his birthday and Christmas and doesn't want me to do so... Feh. I don't care, I'm still gonna buy his Chrono Trigger DS whenever my check clears.
No matter how hard I try, I can never find it in my heart to say that I don't want to do something for somebody. This has lead, pretty much, my entire family to ask me favors or even tell me to do something that I obviously don't want to do, but they know I won't try to stick up for myself.
These are somethings that have happened recently for me.
"Since you're working now, I expect you to help out the family and pay $100 a month." --Mom (Sure I'd like to help out the family but really, her and dad's bills aren't my problem. My main concern is my own bills and moving out.)
"Don't go on a shopping spree, you know you have to pay bills." --Mom (with this one I know I have to pay bills, but she shouldn't tell me what I HAVE to do with my money. I earned it. I should spend it how I want to)
"Hey, Sissy, can ya come in and help me close the shop?" --my little sister (As she walks home as soon as I get there so I'm stuck in Maid-Rite for an hour having to sweep and mop the entire thing. All she had to do was the ketchup bottles...)
"Sissy, can I borrow $40? I need a stress relief. I PROMISE I'll pay you back!" --my little sister (She asked me this during the time before I was working at Maid-Rite and she KNEW that she would of over-draw my account if she took that money seeing as I only had 2 bucks left in there. I kept saying no over and over but then she just closed the door to my room and practically begged me. I don't like the feeling about being trapped in a room because when she closed the door, I basicly felt cornered, so I caved...)
You get the point... Can anyone give me some advice? I can't keep doing this... And I'm not the only one who hates this, my boyfriend hates to see this happen to me. He keeps telling me, I gotta say no ESPECIALLY to my sister because I spoil her too much because I bail her out whenever she's bored or doesn't want to do something herself...
EDIT: With the "shopping spree" thing, it was as if my mom knew that I was gonna buy my boyfriend a present for his birthday and Christmas and doesn't want me to do so... Feh. I don't care, I'm still gonna buy his Chrono Trigger DS whenever my check clears.
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