Being Shy Around Women

CK23

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Hey guys,
I have been shy since i became a teenager... But when i am around nice, caring women i feel the most shy. It's very heart breaking cos i have had many bad experiences in the past and now that i have finally met some nice people who happen to be ladies in my work place... i can't communicate with them... I draw a blank whenever they are around. They are a little older in their mid twenties and have been very supportive and friendly but cos of my SA i completely lose my tongue when i am near them... Cos of this i feel more lonely than ever and get into some serious depression at home cos i have absolutely no social life to speak of...
 

Rodox

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I am also like that, some girls intimidate me so much that I completely avoid them,and most of the times I come off as a jerk or gay.
 
I wouldnt say im shy, i just have the worse luck ever and someone up there hates me. Maybe il meet someone when i start college in september...
 

Argamemnon

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Being shy around women is really something I can't understand, since I've never experienced it. I'm shy around everyone, it makes absolutely no difference to me whether they are male or female.
 

Argamemnon

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Lea said:
Argamemnon said:
Being shy around women is really something I can't understand, since I've never experienced it.

Hidden people are not shy because there is nobody to be shy of :D
I'm sorry, I couldn't see the connection between me not feeling particularly shy around women and this reply :?
 

faithnomore

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English_Dude said:
I wouldnt say im shy, i just have the worse luck ever and someone up there hates me. Maybe il meet someone when i start college in september...

I'm shy, and i have bad luck lol.
 
CK23 said:
Hey guys,
I have been shy since i became a teenager... But when i am around nice, caring women i feel the most shy. It's very heart breaking cos i have had many bad experiences in the past and now that i have finally met some nice people who happen to be ladies in my work place... i can't communicate with them... I draw a blank whenever they are around. They are a little older in their mid twenties and have been very supportive and friendly but cos of my SA i completely lose my tongue when i am near them... Cos of this i feel more lonely than ever and get into some serious depression at home cos i have absolutely no social life to speak of...

You have a common dilemma from social phobia, I would say. Shyness can sometimes make us feel unbelievably lonely. There is no one we can talk to because we have no idea how to express ourselves to anyone without fear and trembling, right?

Well, the thing I would say is begin your thought process with where you want to be and how much room you have to change. Every step you take towards being a stronger minded person will always and only help - you cannot move backwards unless you simply sit idle. Even then you are merely not moving rather than going backwards, you see?

Don't be afraid to try reading books about shyness and people skills. These are the tools I think you will find helping you the most. Of course, the most effective thing you can do is experiment and take risks with yourself. Challenge your thoughts and try to disconfirm your false beliefs.

Eventually the sun will escape from the clouds and better days will arise, I am sure. As long as the will and the mind is pro-active.
 

CK23

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I totally get the self help thing... but the fact is my problem goes further than just this painful shyness i experience... To be honest i have had the worst teenage life imaginable... i was kicked around by every single guy in high school... and i was so pathetic that i couldnt take a bus ride for 5 mintues or talk on the phone... So cos of all the shit i had to cope with i became rebellious and now i dont give a rat's ass if anyone calls or ditches me... but still i have loneliness and panic depression at times... cos every one needs company... About those nice women i talked about... i feel so affected by their friendliness that i cant manage to even say hi to them... i am always dying to talk to them cos whenever we communciate it's soo perfect like something that never happened to me before... but i am always fearing they would hate me cos of my SA and would want to avoid me if i opened up...I wish i could talk to them and at least have some friends in my lonely life...
 

SocialButterSlip

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CK23 said:
I totally get the self help thing... but the fact is my problem goes further than just this painful shyness i experience... To be honest i have had the worst teenage life imaginable... i was kicked around by every single guy in high school... and i was so pathetic that i couldnt take a bus ride for 5 mintues or talk on the phone... So cos of all the shit i had to cope with i became rebellious and now i dont give a rat's ass if anyone calls or ditches me... but still i have loneliness and panic depression at times... cos every one needs company... About those nice women i talked about... i feel so affected by their friendliness that i cant manage to even say hi to them... i am always dying to talk to them cos whenever we communciate it's soo perfect like something that never happened to me before... but i am always fearing they would hate me cos of my SA and would want to avoid me if i opened up...I wish i could talk to them and at least have some friends in my lonely life...

never hurts to try, work yourself up
 

CK23

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Yea i know what you're trying to say... I am trying it out but it's very tough cos i feel terrified of the fact that i might be rejected again... My cousins rejected me, my friends rejected me, my parents dont understand me... I feel like a piece of property of those nice ladies... they have all the power and i feel completely helpless and scared of my condition... I've been thinking about a hi and how are you to start but they are senior and have more workload... i cant seem to find them alone when i can say what i am dying to say.... :(
 
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