frustr4t3d
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frustr4t3d said:Here's a good, short description of AvPD
http://www.coqunselling-directory.org.uk/avoidant.html
Quoted from that last link... "Although this disorder [AvPD] is similar to social phobia, it's more about fear of social relationships and intimacy than of social situations."
ether said:I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder...yet my therapist questioned that...she said I was at least a high functioning Borderline. When I read up on Avoidants...I was like "BINGO!" it fit me to a tee. I fall under the category of femme fatale. I all goes much deeper than social anxiety. Av's won't interact on a social level unless absolutely sure of acceptance. This goes for relationships. We choose people who are not really good because they won't reject us. Yet, we grow tired of them, and dump them...without warning (at least I have). Can't face the "talk".
We put on a "face" because we are so scared people will see the "real" us, and not like what they see. We feel fundamentally flawed compared to others. Low self-esteem (even if unwarranted), depressions plays a part. I was labeled "sensitive as a child. My mother was overprotective as well, she put all her fears into me. Watch Pink Floyd's "The Wall"
If I was not "perfect" in a situation I would drop out, instead of just enjoying what I was doing. Constantly monitoring people's reactions to me as well as my body language, terrified of confrontation. Run away run away. Lost many friends due to "fear". People don't understand how exhausting and crippling this disorder is. They say it is easy to treat,but I wonder...looking for help myself.
still-shy said:Wow that is how I am, and it does kind of suck! It's not fair--to the other person.