zav943
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Today, while jogging, I came across a guy that looked a bit overweight and very out of shape and found myself thinking...man, this guy probably has a hard time picking up girls. Other people must also find him unattractive.
Now, before I go on, let me note that I have very low self-esteem, so I don't think I'm any better than him...I was just judging him from an arbitrary point of view, not comparing him to myself at all.
I've also seen a lot of attractive-looking, fit guys on my jogging trails who I thought were probably juggling several girls at the same time...and often, when I'd see them jogging with an attractive girl, I would get really jealous.
That got me thinking....why? Why do i judge people so much? Why did I judge this unfit stranger so harshly? It made me feel guilty...but much more importantly, it made me think about myself. How does my judgement of this man (and others) affects me?
Maybe someone here can psychoanalyze me haha...also, share your thoughts about being judgmental...
My guess is that this tendency to judge people may be one of the main reasons behind my poor self-esteem. Because I tend to judge other people so readily, I end up projecting the negative judgments unto myself, thereby destroying my own self-confidence, all the while looking at attractive, confident people with spite (I'm not THAT bitter!)...
Maybe I found one of the root causes of my self-esteem issues? You be the judge
Now, before I go on, let me note that I have very low self-esteem, so I don't think I'm any better than him...I was just judging him from an arbitrary point of view, not comparing him to myself at all.
I've also seen a lot of attractive-looking, fit guys on my jogging trails who I thought were probably juggling several girls at the same time...and often, when I'd see them jogging with an attractive girl, I would get really jealous.
That got me thinking....why? Why do i judge people so much? Why did I judge this unfit stranger so harshly? It made me feel guilty...but much more importantly, it made me think about myself. How does my judgement of this man (and others) affects me?
Maybe someone here can psychoanalyze me haha...also, share your thoughts about being judgmental...
My guess is that this tendency to judge people may be one of the main reasons behind my poor self-esteem. Because I tend to judge other people so readily, I end up projecting the negative judgments unto myself, thereby destroying my own self-confidence, all the while looking at attractive, confident people with spite (I'm not THAT bitter!)...
Maybe I found one of the root causes of my self-esteem issues? You be the judge