maggie said:i am very passive..esp. at work....and it's frustrating, cause even if i have a valid point or argument..i usually keep it to myself....and then i brood about it later...pissed off about the way things turned out :evil:
Really relate to that. Definitely passive-aggressive. I have a really hard time being able to defend my viewpoint. I find some people really take advantage when they figure that out about me and talk right over me or do something totally dismissive. And what do i do? Replay it over and over in my head till my ears are steaming. Then avoid that person for awhile.(':roll:')
I've really got to work on that.
McShy said:I used to be terribly non-assertive and bottled things up till the dam would break and I'd take someones hed off in a fury.
I was actually thinking about taking an assertiveness course do you it was helpfull for you?Jeannie21 said:I am passive for sure.
I've gotten into many bad and sometimes scary situations because of this.
It was so much of a problem that my mom made me join an assertiveness training group.
In the group we had to role-play different situations, and try to act assertive. This was one of the hardest things I ever did because of my sp. But now I am a little bit more assertive and haven't gotten into many bad situations since. The main thing I learned is to be able to recognize when and why I am being passive. That is the only way I can change my behavior.