Are you any good at your job?

[steviegerrard489]

I'm just wondering because rather ironically my job involves a fair proportion of attending meetings and liaising with many different stakeholders to develop a solution acceptable to all.

So obviously I need negotiation skills and the ability to chair meetings and make decisions. However, in my job I've always had an experienced manager who does all this stuff. My last manager was 47 years old (I'm 29). So obviously he's got 20 years experience more than me.

But when we had annual appraisals it always got mentioned about 'communication skills' and the fact that I don't say much in meetings (unless I get asked). So I generally hate having appraisals because I get criticised about how I am.

Apart from this aspect of my work I actually think I'm a lot better than most people at writing reports, interpreting information and seem to have a good grasp of whether something will work or not.

 

[Dave_McFadden]

Hell, I'm GREAT at my job. Need the Part D census reconciled? No problem. Why doesn't this add? Here, let me help! Gosh, who do we have that can pinpoint the one person in 10,000 who's throwing off our results? I don't know, is Dave back from lunch yet?

Last year, I won an award for the great service I do for our clients. I won that award after giving up my whole summer. Not like I was doing anything else with it anyway. The award was some certificate and a measly pittance of money; I would have preferred a discretionary bonus or something else that would represent a credible amount toward a down payment on a house. I am in the process of giving up my whole summer now, since my boss is pregnant with twins and has not been in the office in a month. But rest assured that no one else is "valued" like me at work! Fortunately, some kind of severe social problems are "requisite" for this job, so many of the people I work with are also abnormal.

So, yeah, I'm great at my job. I got a big raise about a year and a half ago and jokingly told my boss "Now I can afford a girlfriend." HA! Who was I kidding? I get stupid and proud like that sometimes though. I need reality to bring me back to earth sometimes and it is usually happy to oblige. I'm going to be one of these people who dies worth a fortune and everyone who "knows" me will be astonished with how much money their share of my estate turns out to be.

If I ever think highly enough of my award to actually hang it somewhere, at least I have plenty of space! My wall certainly isn't filled with pictures of stupid things like a wife and kids.

 

[VioletTears]

The kids adore me... I'm always the favorite teacher who they all flock to... I guess that's why I went into teaching... That part of it feels good.

But no, I don't feel good at my job... I feel good at that PART of my job but not the rest.

 

[Angel_Of_Death]

I'm still in studies at university, but I do work part time and was previously working full time for almost all of last year....My job is in a call center doing customer service. And I can honestly say I'm great at my job, I have no problems talking to clients on the phone and show alot of confidence. With my co-workers tough, it's a different story, I'm horrible.

It's funny because my co-workers must find it weird that I speak so well and with confidence with clients on the phone, but when I have to talk to them (co-workers) directly, all of sudden I'm not so confident and talk with a trembling voice, specially around the girls. Most of the time I'm quiet and don't say much, I feel anxious when there are people around me.

 

[roseycheeks]

It's funny because my co-workers must find it weird that I speak so well and with confidence with clients on the phone, but when I have to talk to them (co-workers) directly, all of sudden I'm not so confident and talk with a trembling voice, specially around the girls. Most of the time I'm quiet and don't say much, I feel anxious when there are people around me.

I'm also at uni and working part time in a call centre and I can totally relate to what you are saying. I'm so confident on the phones, and feel I do a great job, but when it comes to socialising at work.. im so so quiet.

I hate the fact that im one of the oldest in the company (well only by a few years, but even so) and yet, people younger, with less experience, are getting promoted to supervisors. I hate that i go unnoticed. I know id be capable but because im not a loud mouth, no1 seems to see taht.

 

[dottie]

i am a waitress (wtf, right? totally in the wrong field). obviously i am not good at my job at all.

i do not make eye contact with customers or coworkers. the customers often talk about my awkwardness while i am walking away from the table, i'm not stupid, i can hear. rude fucks. because of my anxiety it is hard for me to multitask and handle many tables at once. the other servers can handle way more than me so i know i do not look good. they often ask me if i am ok. i can never remember the specials of the day and their prices so i have to read them from my notepad when i go to every table. i am very distracted by the presence of people and get flustered so i cannot focus. my coworkers think i am wierd and that i don't like them (one of them mentioned it just tonight). it's not true. i just don't know how to joke around or to even be relaxed.

being a server is not a good job for me. it leaves me feeling humiliated & like i am a disappointment to the rest of the staff. i am constantly in fear that they will fire me because i am too awkward. i haven't worked there long at all so i am afraid that pretty soon they will decide that i am just not a good fit. if they fire me from this job for my awkwardness i seriously am going to give up. i have this disability and try and try despite it. it takes so much fucking gumption just to show up. it amazes me but at the same time i always feel like i am on the verge of a huge breakdown. this is not how i want to live my life.

the reason i wait tables is because it is decent money. tonight i worked 6 hours (i get paid min wage + tips) so that is $48 + $80 in tips... for 5 hours i made $128. that is about $25 an hour. also, it fits around my school schedule. there are very few job positions available that are flexible and willing to work around a school schedule. that is why i stick with it despite the mental/emotional anguish.

i take one day at a time. sometime, one minute at a time. at work, i take one second at a time.

and these struggles i cannot share with anyone i know in real life because they do not understand or appreciate social anxiety disorder. they shrug their shoulders and say deal with it. that's life. they think it's a joke or an excuse. i am sorry if i post too much here about the same subject, i have no one to talk to that understands. i am on the verge of a breakdown, literally, i don't know what to do. i need help really bad. does anyone have a crisis number? i need help but i don't know how to get it. i don't have insurance and i can't afford to pay for counseling. getting it seems so complicated. i really am not in a good state.

 

[dottie]

Dottie always when I read your posts, it´s almost like I wrote it. It is so similar to my situation, and how I felt in my last job. I also had thoughts I need some help or counselling badly, or what am I gonna do, *****? I am without work now because I have quite an amount money saved so it will last for a while and then I don´t know..

lea, it is always nice to hear someone can relate to how i feel because in real life everyone else treats it like it is unacceptable or unspeakable. it makes me feel ashamed.

what did you do for your last job?

 

[osse]

I have had several jobs and I have failed at all of them. I made a lot of mistakes. In the one I have right now I have been reprimended twice and I'm going to leave before they fire me and because I can't stand more anxiety and take another one. I haven't been good at anyone.