anyone shy around siblings mates?

[Lotrsfan]

Hi
i just wanted to see if anyone else has this problem
I get really nervous when my sister has her mate or mates round after school or half term, I don't talk to them, i don't say hello but then they look as if they don't care anyways, and i know it's probably no rule that i have to talk to them when they are round coz they are not my friends. I don't even like to be in the same room as them or even walk in the room which they are in, i get so nervous and my heart pounds really hard when i hear the front door open and in comes my sister and a friend. I'm sitting in the lounge and i'll be doing some cross-stitch and my sister and her mate or mates would come through the lounge to go upstairs and i don't even look at them when they come into the lounge i just carry on with what i'm doing. I feel stupid but i would get so scared at the thought of saying hello or hiya to them, and be thinking they'll say why the hell did she say hi to me for. Well...I'm not the only one with the problem, my sisters mates don't really talk to me either or just say hi and i don't think they really care. When they come round to my house i think they think i'm not round here to talk to her sister, i'm round here to hang out with my best mate or something. and well i think the same their my sister's mates, their not mine so why do i have to say hi to them.
I don't have any mates so you can't really say try don't you ask a friend round too when your sis has hers round. Or why don't you go round to a friends when you know that your sis will be havin her mate(s) round.
Does anyone else get so shy around their siblings friends?

 

[Richey]

Oh yes! I feel your pain, and my sisters friends are so ego driven, its like a competition of the wittiest and normally im eaten alive as im not that talkative around them. Also they are all super-gorgeous people and personalities so when i walk out of the room i can hear them talking about me and how "whats his problem".... its a nightmare.

Same goes for my cousins, very distinguished well rounded people who could talk the pants of you, all gorgeous looking people, i feel cursed.

 

[Lotrsfan]

they don't talk about me to my sister when they walk past they just walk past quietly or just continue talking normal to each other but i get nervous that if they are in the sitting room and i try to buck my courage to came down stairs and actually walk past them to go into the kitchen that they might laugh and they'll say something about me to my sister. And i get worried that if i look at them and i look at them how they don't want me too, they'll tell my sister and say "Your sister was giving me a well bad look." or something. and well that's kinda happened before, i think i looked at one of her mates naturally and which i would think is just a normal look then i heard one day that my sister said that her mate just told me that you were giving her the evil eyes, and "i'm like what, i never! it's just the way i look!" and i think i was outside in the back yard and the sun was shining so maybe it was supposed to be a normal look but then the sun shone in my eyes and made them close a little, giving the impression of an evil eye look, so now i try not to look at them

 

[jayfan]

im new here , been lurking for awhile now and finally decided to join. just wanted to say whats up.

as for this topic , i dont have this problem . in fact i get along with my brothers friends really well. we go play basketball together ,play video games frequently - we talk a little bit(though im obviously not a very talkative person) . we'll go shopping together or grab a bite to eat.
it might just your mates friends and what kind of ppl they are but yes you should at the very least be a little friendly by saying "hello"


i dont know why i replied since i dont have this problem but ohh well.

 

[paul]

hey -- my brother's friends scare the hell out of me -- and he never tells me when they're coming over! :x what i do when they come which is probably not the best method of handling the situation is go upstairs (usually they're in the basement) and do homework or read a book or watch tv or something. one thing i really hate is when they ring the doorbell and i have to answer it because my brother isn't here .. i never really know what to say :lol: luckily though his friends don't really say much about me, because if they said something too bad about me i'm sure my brother would be the first to tell me :roll:

i guess i just try to be nice to them (if i have to i say hi or smile or something) and one of them actually figured out my name 8O hehe. i think it's bad enough that your sibling has friends over, and then it's worse when they're like super-outgoing and loud. :roll: what an annoying problem!

 

[Quixote]

I have this problem as well. Normally what I do is I try to show up for a minute or two, so it doesn't seem that I am too much "weird" or something like this, and then as soon as possible I escape to my room or go somewhere. I have almost no friends and engage in few activities so this last solution is not always feasible, but in the worst of cases I can just pretend I am very busy and run out only to go for a stupid walk alone.

I always try to say hello and follow all the common rules, even if it's hard sometimes to do it naturally. If I don't it will be the definitive proof that something is wrong with me and that would make the situation worse. I suggest this to everyone, force yourself to follow politeness rules at least, and then you can leave.

 

[Lotrsfan]

i try not to hide away, and i can't anyway. i guess the people who have their own bedroom are lucky coz when they know that their siblings mate is coming over you can just go in there, and just dosh around in there, until they leave, or you think they've left. But i can't do that, coz my sister and i share a room, so when my sister has a mate round they spend all the time in our bedroom, and me i have to choose between going on the computer that's in my mum and dad's bedroom, or sitting in the lounge, watching TV or doing my cross-stitch. If i'm on the computer and my sisters mates are still round but are in our room with my sister, and i'm getting bored with using the comp, i still stay on it coz i'm worried that if i get off the comp to go downstairs one of my sister's mates might come out of our room at that every moment and i'd wouldn't know what to do or say.
Then if i'm downstairs and i want to go to the toliet and the bathroom is upstairs and my sister and her mate are on the computer in my mum and dad's room I don't go up to the toliet i wait until they go out or home. Coz again i'm worried that they might want to go to the toliet when i want to and i've have to say something to her or she might walk past. i know that i probably could just ignore her and just get on with whatever i'm doing, like if their in our bedroom and i want to get something from it, i can walk in and get it if i want. But i get worried that if i do that, that they'll start talking about me afterwards. Or my sister would go "What you doing in here?" or "Why are you sneaking around for?" i know that this might happen coz i've heard mum say that she does that to her when she wants to put something in our room, or go put something in her room.