Anyone hate all their friends.
- Thread starter cherish
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i can't keep friends. I hold them at too high of expectations. I expect too much out of them and then i am let down. I am overly thankful for them and i am dependant on them. It ends up cursing me than helping me at all. Maybe i need to choose better friends i dont know.
longlivesolitude
Well-known member
I know what you mean 8O I find hard to find af person who I really like spending time with.. Hm.. and I don't think many guys like spending time with the more quiet, nervous person. Or maybe it's just about adjusting more.
Anyway
be patient. Good friends don't grow on trees.
Anyway
be patient. Good friends don't grow on trees.
Danfalc
Banned
GemGem said:I thought I had friends but over the past year I have realised they are only acquaintances. The 2 i told bout my SA just laughed it off. The only real we friend we have is ourself and sometimes our close family!
GemGem xx
Yeh.. and it's funny how so called friends, suddenly dissapear when you come into big problems and you need em.I think its sad but true.. that quite a high % of peeps are jerks... and are only friends with you when it suits them.
But saying that, i have problems being around people and making friends,but ive still met some really nice caring people in real as well as online.
jojosparkles
Well-known member
i dont hate my friends. i think hate is a strong word and i dont hate anyone.
i am dissappointed in some of my friends as altho they keep in touch they make no real effort. i dont like to burden them with me and my problems tho.
im lucky and have a few mates that are very special. i have my sister aswell. my best friend is there for me thru thick and thin and i wouldnt swap him for the world and a pack of choccy biccies. i am very priveleged to have him in my life.
i work hard to keep my friends. i kno some arent in touch as much cos they dunno wat to say! they feel awkward! most of em try and try but as i dont wanna go out to places unless they come to mine i dont c em! i kno i will when i start socialisin again.
i ring and text em all the time! i write to them and email them. most of them have been good. some have let me down. thats life tho! xxx
i am dissappointed in some of my friends as altho they keep in touch they make no real effort. i dont like to burden them with me and my problems tho.
im lucky and have a few mates that are very special. i have my sister aswell. my best friend is there for me thru thick and thin and i wouldnt swap him for the world and a pack of choccy biccies. i am very priveleged to have him in my life.
i work hard to keep my friends. i kno some arent in touch as much cos they dunno wat to say! they feel awkward! most of em try and try but as i dont wanna go out to places unless they come to mine i dont c em! i kno i will when i start socialisin again.
i ring and text em all the time! i write to them and email them. most of them have been good. some have let me down. thats life tho! xxx
Jack-B
Well-known member
All,
Friends, enemies and strangers all have one thing in common - they all depend on qualities.
For example, if we view someone as having good qualities we generally like that person because it generates a pleasant feeling within us.
If we view someone as having bad qualities they will stimulate unpleasant feelings in us and we avoid them or hate them.
If we view no qualities in a person, they are usually strangers, we see nothing in them.
The qualities of people depend on how we view people sometimes if we are ina bad mood we only see bad qualities in everyone whereas someone in a good mood may see only good qualities in others. It depends on what is going on inside our mind. We can relate to others in a balanced way by seeing what is true in everyone or at best try viewing everyone in a more beneficial way.
People are extremely kind. For without them you could not be able to overcome your social anxiety and principally it is others who help you learn other ways of seeing your world. This reason alone is enough to at least see everyone as a benefactor to our self.
Jack
Friends, enemies and strangers all have one thing in common - they all depend on qualities.
For example, if we view someone as having good qualities we generally like that person because it generates a pleasant feeling within us.
If we view someone as having bad qualities they will stimulate unpleasant feelings in us and we avoid them or hate them.
If we view no qualities in a person, they are usually strangers, we see nothing in them.
The qualities of people depend on how we view people sometimes if we are ina bad mood we only see bad qualities in everyone whereas someone in a good mood may see only good qualities in others. It depends on what is going on inside our mind. We can relate to others in a balanced way by seeing what is true in everyone or at best try viewing everyone in a more beneficial way.
People are extremely kind. For without them you could not be able to overcome your social anxiety and principally it is others who help you learn other ways of seeing your world. This reason alone is enough to at least see everyone as a benefactor to our self.
Jack
i really can't remember how i made the friends i have. At one time i was able to communicate alot better with people. I'm losing these friends to this social phobia and it makes me angry at myself and them. I'm scared. I love my friends and i'm frusterated that they can't understand my behavoir and thinking and i don't know how to make them.
alicia_
Member
cherish said:
I cant stress enough how important it is to keep in touch with them !!! Keep emailing or SMSing, go out with them one on one if you prefer even just for a coffee. Seriously i have let all my friends go thinking i didnt really click that well with them anyway and i would meet ppl suited for me at uni. I havent and im alone. i keep thinking about these ppl and what they are up to. i would love to still be apart of that circle even if it was a little 'fake' at times.
Cherish - dont end up a complete loner like me PLEASE youll hate yourself!!!
happy5225
Active member
I feel the same way. When I was not interesting they always leave me alone. When I was talented they came and talked to me.and respected me. It's about my SA, I always scared. I don't know how to make friends.I can't remember any friendship. Sometimes I hate myself, but it's no use.cherish said: