Anyone else has a serious addiction problem to p and m ( x rated stuff)?

[da_illest101]

So for someone like me who was unable to really speak with anyone when I was younger my only type of human interaction was via a computer. So most of the type of relationship I had was virtual, sentimental or more x rated. I spend all my teenage years watching x rated stuff which seems somewhat normal for most people.

The thing that bothers me is when I read that normally someone should masturbate about 2-3 times a week, more than that is consider too much. 2- 3 a week... well let just say that that is way too little compare to what I do. The max I was able without watching anything was 13 days.

Not really sure if I want to stop completely or simply reduce the amount of time I do it and spend on it, but I need to change that. So I tried to stop or reduce, but it simply doesn't work. I tried to quit for over a year and I still no different then before.

My biggest problem with porn is that it feels like my only high, everything in my life will get toss aside for it. I arrived late, didn't do school work, won't do anything else.I'm also injured and my injuries will never heal unless I stop spending so much time online watching. I have lower back, and knee problems and it hurts every time i'm busy with myself. yet I can't stop.

I'm tired of being *high* or tired because I did it too many time in a day. I also thought that real sex would help me, but after losing my virginity I still prefer p and m over the real thing.

I just feel like I'll never be able to advance in life with a problem like that. I can't have a relationship with anyone if I only about what I'm doing with myself too. Unless i'm sober I can't have any real attraction to another girl

 

[9407]

I was addicted to it about 2-3 years ago when I was 16-17, but since one of my medications makes it harder to get an erection, I don't do it as often.

 

[MikeyC]

The thing that bothers me is when I read that normally someone should masturbate about 2-3 times a week, more than that is consider too much.

Uh, well, consider me masturbating "too much" then.

 

[KiaKaha]

In my opinon there is no such thing as masturbating "too much" in fact the more the better I say...
I have read studies that suggest masturbation is perfectly normal and can actually improve love making - and I mean lets face it...why wouldnt you want too? Its there...may as well use it... so I really wouldnt worry about frequency (within reason I mean - every few minutes is out of hand... I once saw a documentary about a woman who had to masturbate every 20 minutes... it was ruining her life)

Now with the porn stuff - I dont think there is anything wrong with that either - its all good... as long as you dont view it as the only outlet for your sexuality or as a replacement for interpersonal relationships. Porn addiction is very real, and I am not qualified to give any kind of advice on this, but if you are concerned that its affecting your life in destructive ways you may want to talk to someone offline who can help you.

 

[Aletheia]

The thing that bothers me is when I read that normally someone should masturbate about 2-3 times a week

Yeah, that sounds really low for a 24 year old.

My biggest problem with porn is that it feels like my only high, everything in my life will get toss aside for it.

That may be the issue rather than the frequency itself. I'm sorry to hear about your back problems.

but after losing my virginity I still prefer p and m over the real thing

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[Section_31]

I understand completely how you feel, one addict to another.

no ones two addictions or stories are alike. What it comes down to is if its at the point where you feel its a problem, like i did in my similiar post. I for one commend you for being strong enough to admit youre going through this and being able to talk about it. Many people cant, heck, i had to wrestle with it for over half a year before i decided to say i need to get some help.

Have you tried looking up support groups in your area for this?.

 

[da_illest101]

I understand completely how you feel, one addict to another.

no ones two addictions or stories are alike. What it comes down to is if its at the point where you feel its a problem, like i did in my similiar post. I for one commend you for being strong enough to admit youre going through this and being able to talk about it. Many people cant, heck, i had to wrestle with it for over half a year before i decided to say i need to get some help.

Have you tried looking up support groups in your area for this?.

I look around, there are some places for it, but they are rather far, I need to create time, having the actual motivation to go, and have money. I tried every single techniques that I saw online, but I can't seem to focus on something else. When I'm at work or at school I have no problem, but it's when I'm alone at home that i'm screwed, and i'm not an outgoing person too

 

[doubtmyself]

I understand completely how you feel, one addict to another.

no ones two addictions or stories are alike. What it comes down to is if its at the point where you feel its a problem, like i did in my similiar post. I for one commend you for being strong enough to admit youre going through this and being able to talk about it. Many people cant, heck, i had to wrestle with it for over half a year before i decided to say i need to get some help.

Have you tried looking up support groups in your area for this?.

Unfortunate username for your addiction..

 

[doubtmyself]

I look around, there are some places for it, but they are rather far, I need to create time, having the actual motivation to go, and have money. I tried every single techniques that I saw online, but I can't seem to focus on something else. When I'm at work or at school I have no problem, but it's when I'm alone at home that i'm screwed, and i'm not an outgoing person too

The main thing is to treat it like any addiction. Don't make it worse with shame.
I think too much porn is dangerous. It affects your whole attitude to life especially women. Dehumanising women can't help you when wanting to start real relationships. Your fantasies/fetshes may get in the way.
I'm not preaching ...as I've been there too. In the long run it's not healthy mentally, emotionally, spiritually or physically. In moderation is understandable.