any tips for getting over fear of getting job applications?

[reslo]

more than anything, i would love to have a job right now~

i have hard time getting myself outta the house, let alone to go in to places to apply- all im looking for is fastfood/retail/anything...

i have a hard time even applying online- because i know it's a lot easier for me to avoid responding if they respond back to me

i can't even walk into the employment office-

what are your guys' advice for just going in and getting over it?

 

[Mikefly]

I can't work in industries or places like you talk about , i work with my dad and cousin with one job i have and work with one friend who runs a landcapping buisness. I'm only good one on one or one on two , i can't work with crews or work around small or big groups over 5 people or so.

 

[BlackKids]

Just do small things that put you outta your comfort zone. Its going to take alot of work to get over (or get to the point where you can live comfortably with anxiety).

Think positively all the time. Say if you force yourself outta the house and go for a walk you might feel like crap. But atleast you went out and your one step closer.

My anxiety has gotten so much better over the last few months, I still feel nervous when I go out but hasnt stopped me for doing anything for a long time

Good luck man

 

[reslo]

update: well, since then i have applied for a dishwasher job online, yesterday i did get some applications
-drove to two places and didn't walk in
-walked into 4 different places and got applications from 2 (the clerks were busy in the other 2 so i didn't bother-- but one of the applications says it is supposed to be filled out at the establishment-uhhhh i booked it outta there >< so i may not fill that one out ...)
i hate it i really hate it but i just try to remind myself that being a burden to my mother is even worse than undergoing scrutiny and pretending to be outgoing and competent eventhough i look like a fool
i think it helped to make a list of all the businesses i could think of in the area (even ones that i wouldn't want to apply to) [i came up with over 50 and i live in a city of around 5,000 people... and driving around there were a lot more places that i didn't even think of)

thanks for the replies

 

[limetree]

I'm proud of you for taking that first step, it's probably less nerve-racking than anticipatory anxiety. I'm in the same pickle. My friend found me a waitress vacancy position but I'm too chicken to apply. Note all the food references, I should follow this advice, "if you see a boundary, eat it."

 

[desoconnor]

Well done reslo, thats a big first step to take

I think that people with SA make amazing workers, cos we're so worried about letting people down and what people think we doing an amazing job

 

[TimArends]

First of all, you have to ask yourself why you fear filling out job applications. Do you really fear filling out a piece of paper? Or is it all the things that go with it, a possible job interview, getting to know new coworkers, trying to make conversation, that actually causes you fear? The actual filling out of the applications is the easy part.

Actually, filling out job applications is an incredible pain. In this technological age, you'd think you could fill out one application, and with the touch of a button, send it out everywhere. But of course, employers don't want to make it too easy. They Separate the wheat from the chaff, the ones who really want to get a job from the ones who don't, by making it a pain in the ass. That's the way the whole game works, and you might as well get used to it!

 

[Jake123]

I've never understood any of this, they must have taught it in the year I missed from dropping out of highschool. It doesn't make sense at all. It's completely alien to me.

 

[Harleyq]

I'm proud of you for taking that first step, it's probably less nerve-racking than anticipatory anxiety. I'm in the same pickle. My friend found me a waitress vacancy position but I'm too chicken to apply. Note all the food references, I should follow this advice, "if you see a boundary, eat it."

Try it! If you don't like it, you can always quit. Then I won't be the only one on here talking about my job as a server. It miraculously does help a bit with SA, too. It opens you up to different kinds of people and gets you out there to practice your social skills. My job as a waitress is the reason I can now say "thank you" when people do something nice for me, the reason I can communicate to other service workers, the reason I'm not as afraid to eat by myself in public, the reason I can look people in the eyes more often, and the reason I'm no longer as afraid to speak up in a small group of people,

To anybody afraid of getting a job, you just gotta keep thinking "what's the worst that could happen?" The worst they'll do is tell you "no" - the exact same "no" they give to tons and tons of other people. EVERYBODY faces more job rejections than they do offers.

 

[Jake123]

To anybody afraid of getting a job, you just gotta keep thinking "what's the worst that could happen?" The worst they'll do is tell you "no" - the exact same "no" they give to tons and tons of other people. EVERYBODY faces more job rejections than they do offers.

That's a pretty damn horrible thing for someone with a fear of rejection like myself.