Am i introverted or do i have social anxiety? Or Both? Or None?

[AMunk3y]

Hi everyone!!!
I would just like some opinions! I know that you all aren't doctors, but just plain honest opinions would be really nice Also, sorry for the long post!
Anyways, my situation is killing me recently. I transferred to my University over a year ago and have not made any real friends.
I have made acquaintances, people i chat with like my roommates and classmates, but no friends that i go out and party with.
So i started to think maybe I'm introverted, but i read that introverted people get energy from being alone, and it's the opposite for me. I HATE being alone, i get depressed and want to go out and have fun with others. I sometimes just get up and leave my room to walk around the school or i go to the basketball courts where there are lots of people just to feel better. I feel like i am the outgoing type because i feel like i am naturally loud and chatty and outgoing, but i don't know what to do to make friends. It seems like everyone is already in their groups.
The thing is that when i am talking to someone, i am not shy at all. I am funny and at full ease. I have no problems talking with anyone and i am very open. I want to talk to more people, but it just seems that i don't. It's really frustrating. So i thought i might have some sort of social anxiety but the key here is that It's not because I'm afraid! Isn't the root of social anxiety fear? I was reading that the primary symptoms that distinguish shyness from SAD are the intensity of the fear, the level of avoidance, and the impairment of functioning that it causes in a person’s life.
I don't really have any fear of a situation, i am at ease in most situations or when i'm around people. I just have a hard time getting around people.
I can understand avoidance and impairment because i am not doing what i want to do because of not being around people.
In certain situations, though, like when I'm playing sports at the gym, I start up conversations and get real loud and chatty. At times like that when i am being more outgoing, i get extremely happy and wish that the rest of my time was like that. But then i leave and everything goes back to being introverted and i get depressed again.

Another things that gets to me is that My brother, who goes out every single night to party and has a lot of friends is the opposite of me. My parents always say how i am so loud and open and talkative, and how he is not very talkative and shy. Even when his friends talk to me they always say how i am so awesome because i am so loud and speak my mind (usually something funny), but our situations say otherwise.
Also, to put things in perspective about why i find what i'm doing odd, i applied to become a soccer class instructor at my school, got interviewed by 3 people and was super calm and chatty, and i got the job. I began teaching students a week ago who are my age. I am not having any problems either!
And after graduating i plan on joining the military.

So How does this make sense?
What is wrong with me? Am i an introvert that just hates being introverted or am i not introverted but have social anxiety? Or something else entirely? What are your opinions?

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I think that you are you.

If you absolutely feel you need to have a label; I would say you sound a bit socially awkward, but that's about it.
You seem to have a great grasp on the actual psychology and terms that go around them but you're confused because you don't quite fit with any of them.
That's okay.
You're still young, I take it-- a young adult; and a common feeling among teens/young adults (myself included) is confusion about who we are.
I guess this is you searching for answers but it may take you years to figure it out and be okay with who you are.

You sound to me like you do well in social situations but you want to do better and that will probably just come with more practice; if it's what you want.

 

[Alistair]

I think that you are you.

If you absolutely feel you need to have a label; I would say you sound a bit socially awkward, but that's about it.
You seem to have a great grasp on the actual psychology and terms that go around them but you're confused because you don't quite fit with any of them.
That's okay.
You're still young, I take it-- a young adult; and a common feeling among teens/young adults (myself included) is confusion about who we are.
I guess this is you searching for answers but it may take you years to figure it out and be okay with who you are.

You sound to me like you do well in social situations but you want to do better and that will probably just come with more practice; if it's what you want.

I agree with this 100%. I'm in the same way, due I was insecure, and still am to some degree, but my job forced me to interact (Which was a good thing) and not be as "awkward."

My opinion is this, I rather have a few close friends than a million "friends" as FB, and Myspace have ever so elegantly coined. They accept you for who you are, and while I was in HS, it took me a good few years to find these people. During that time, I was a floater until I felt more comfortable.

 

[AMunk3y]

I think that you are you.

If you absolutely feel you need to have a label; I would say you sound a bit socially awkward, but that's about it.
You seem to have a great grasp on the actual psychology and terms that go around them but you're confused because you don't quite fit with any of them.
That's okay.
You're still young, I take it-- a young adult; and a common feeling among teens/young adults (myself included) is confusion about who we are.
I guess this is you searching for answers but it may take you years to figure it out and be okay with who you are.

You sound to me like you do well in social situations but you want to do better and that will probably just come with more practice; if it's what you want.

Yea, i guess what i am trying to do is find where i fit in. Not necessarily who i am, because i am pretty happy with who i am other than this problem i'm having. I actually view myself very highly in most cases, probably border on slight narcissism (depending how you view this, but i am going for the idea that i am better than everyone). It's just frustrating because i think to myself that i should fit in somewhere but just don't know where.
Also, i do think i do very well in social situations. I feel like i do well in any situation, actually, but my problem seems to be not being able to get into social situations often. I guess time will tell what happens huh.

I agree with this 100%. I'm in the same way, due I was insecure, and still am to some degree, but my job forced me to interact (Which was a good thing) and not be as "awkward."

My opinion is this, I rather have a few close friends than a million "friends" as FB, and Myspace have ever so elegantly coined. They accept you for who you are, and while I was in HS, it took me a good few years to find these people. During that time, I was a floater until I felt more comfortable.

I do not really feel "insecure" though. I am actually pretty confident being social, definitely not awkward as i mentioned.
And it's not that i'm saying i want 1000 friends, i'm just saying i want to find more ways to be social, like people you just hand out with for 'fun', whether with 'real' friends or not.