EscapeArtist
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Lying awake in bed last night, I realized something.I feel like I have a cycle of addiction, that goes like this:
Idealize about a stranger, if I meet the stranger (rare circumstances) I at first obsess, then they don't meet my expectations or I feel inferior and or exposed around them, then I mysteriously drop off the earth or push them away sometimes without even realizing i'm doing it (even if they're extremely close friends that i've had for years). I feel like it gives me superiority and some kind of illusion of freedom. I dream about making true friends that last, but I can't stop leaving people when I feel like they're beginning to know me! I've lost some good, long lasting friendships because of this, and many small ones that could have blossomed.This is probably a control thing, showing myself and them that I can't be "controlled". Finally making a friend and then leaving them, equally excited by both actions. Part of me likes the idea of being that "lone wolf" mysterious character, and another part of myself is lonely and regretful, the second dominates at the moment.
How. Do. I. Cut. This. OFF... !! There should be a avoidant personality/agoraphobic recovery center. -SIGH-.
Idealize about a stranger, if I meet the stranger (rare circumstances) I at first obsess, then they don't meet my expectations or I feel inferior and or exposed around them, then I mysteriously drop off the earth or push them away sometimes without even realizing i'm doing it (even if they're extremely close friends that i've had for years). I feel like it gives me superiority and some kind of illusion of freedom. I dream about making true friends that last, but I can't stop leaving people when I feel like they're beginning to know me! I've lost some good, long lasting friendships because of this, and many small ones that could have blossomed.This is probably a control thing, showing myself and them that I can't be "controlled". Finally making a friend and then leaving them, equally excited by both actions. Part of me likes the idea of being that "lone wolf" mysterious character, and another part of myself is lonely and regretful, the second dominates at the moment.
How. Do. I. Cut. This. OFF... !! There should be a avoidant personality/agoraphobic recovery center. -SIGH-.
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