I've found over the years that I don't make much effort to keep relationships that dont pertain to really close friends. Im always afraid that they have just forgotten about me and it will be weird if I say hi. Even this past year, there was a girl who would say hi to me in the hallway, but if she didn't I wouldn't say it back, so we stopped talking altogether. Its happened other times too, thats just the most recent. Does anyone else deal with this and know some solutions?
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I do this often. I'm incapable of maintaining friendships and I'm also constantly streamlining my life because I always want to reinvent myself in an attempt to start over. It's almost like there are numerous chapters in my life, and when one chapter's over, it's really over. As a result, I never keep up with anyone from my past.
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AvPD says, it is impolite to start. Someone wants to talk they will talk first.
Trying to stop those thoughts. Or to go around them. A mighty pillar, difficult to see around.
Simple nod, acknowledged, seems to work just as good as 'hey,' 'hi' or 'good day.'
'Everything burns!'
AvPD says, it is impolite to start. Someone wants to talk they will talk first.
Trying to stop those thoughts. Or to go around them. A mighty pillar, difficult to see around.
Simple nod, acknowledged, seems to work just as good as 'hey,' 'hi' or 'good day.'
In my experience you have degrees of 'closeness' of friends, in following order:
- best friends: those who have stuck with you regardless of how you are and will always try to help without wanting anything in return
- friends: those who say hi occasionally but don't want to help you or don't want bother them with your problems
- 'pseudo' friends: those who claim to be your friend or those who you only hear from when they actually need something from you, otherwise you'll never hear from them and will likely ignore you if you say hi (or out of politeness return the hi and that's all)
- acquaintances: those who you know (probably by name) and those who know you and that's all (like colleagues at work)
I've met a lot of people that fall in the pseudo friends category, probably because I'm a bit naive and try to help others if they ask something I can help with.
My point is that there might be people that you once considered friends that were just pseudo friends and you probably will only hear of them again, usually out of the blue, when they need you.
So don't let it bother you that it's your fault or something, it's highly likely that's it not, it's just the way those people are.
- best friends: those who have stuck with you regardless of how you are and will always try to help without wanting anything in return
- friends: those who say hi occasionally but don't want to help you or don't want bother them with your problems
- 'pseudo' friends: those who claim to be your friend or those who you only hear from when they actually need something from you, otherwise you'll never hear from them and will likely ignore you if you say hi (or out of politeness return the hi and that's all)
- acquaintances: those who you know (probably by name) and those who know you and that's all (like colleagues at work)
I've met a lot of people that fall in the pseudo friends category, probably because I'm a bit naive and try to help others if they ask something I can help with.
My point is that there might be people that you once considered friends that were just pseudo friends and you probably will only hear of them again, usually out of the blue, when they need you.
So don't let it bother you that it's your fault or something, it's highly likely that's it not, it's just the way those people are.