krs2snow said:
Alter_ego, you make a good point! Unfortunately, I don't believe that was this situation. She's made other little comments directly to me before along the same lines- with no third party involved.
Now that you mention it though, I am wondering if she isn't offended by me. :?: I think she may have mistaken my quietness for dislike or maybe snobbishness. It definitely goes both ways! I think I may have inadvertently offended her by not being more friendly and sociable. Maybe that's why she takes little jabs at me every so often about how quiet I am... who knows.?! Ah-well, another day, another conversation not had!
Do
NOT take the blame when OTHER PEOPLE are rude!!!!!! :x It IS possible the situation was like I said, but if your co-worker has been making comments that offend you then she is the one who needs to change her attitude.
I used to be v.v.quiet myself and I would get v.embarrassed and die inside when people made comments like "You never say much, do you?" etc They were trying to be friendly but they were going totally the wrong way about bringing a shy person out of their shell. I think it's because they don't know how to deal with it.
Well, nowadays I can see both sides because even tho I'm no longer shy (well, inside I'm still quite socially anxious with certain people but I hide it pretty good) I find it baffling when anyone is shy with me - I mean, it's only
me!!!! 8O Like we occasionally get work experience kids in our workplace and if they're obviously shy I never comment on it, I just try to make them feel relaxed by asking them easy-to-answer questions like what school they go to, is it still raining, what work they'd like to do when they leave school etc (not all at once, of course, just during the day) tho I must admit I keep wishing they'd realise it's
only me they're talking to and they don't need to be so shy!
I think maybe next time your co-worker makes a comment about how quiet you are you could try shrugging, smiling and saying something like, "I know, I hate being shy."
If she comes back with, "But you've known me for AGES!" just laugh and say, "I'm still a bit shy tho!"
Hopefully things might improve then. But I know even that conversation won't be easy for you, I well remember how I used to be myself. There IS light at the end of the tunnel tho. As you get older you'll open up a bit more because confidence grows. Like I said, guess who never said a word way back and now guess who can't stop talking?! :roll: :lol:
:roll: :evil:
