a question of opinion
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Yes, of course... If you have a good (not too good! 
) relationship with your mother (or other females) and view her/them as friendly and supportive, you're more likely to see other women as friendly and supportive too... Some schools of psychology/psychotherapy focus more on early life and relationship with parents, some less...
On the other hand, some mum's can 'mum' sons too much, and 'smother' them a bit, and may be unlikely to let 'competition' (of other women) near... It is important to get some independence then, and if you do marry or get a gf, to set clear boundaries, so that it's easier for both of them to come to terms with each other... A friend of mine dumped a bf because 'he was too much of a mama's boy'... (there were some other problems too, this was one of the factors she mentioned though)
Some say that many gay men had dominant mothers - that this can maybe be a factor too... (?)
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) relationship with your mother (or other females) and view her/them as friendly and supportive, you're more likely to see other women as friendly and supportive too... Some schools of psychology/psychotherapy focus more on early life and relationship with parents, some less... On the other hand, some mum's can 'mum' sons too much, and 'smother' them a bit, and may be unlikely to let 'competition' (of other women) near... It is important to get some independence then, and if you do marry or get a gf, to set clear boundaries, so that it's easier for both of them to come to terms with each other... A friend of mine dumped a bf because 'he was too much of a mama's boy'... (there were some other problems too, this was one of the factors she mentioned though)
Some say that many gay men had dominant mothers - that this can maybe be a factor too... (?)
What aspect of this question are you particularly interested in? And what made you ask this question?
The Observer
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well you haven't stated what kind of "relationship" so please elaborate a bit more...
i'm asking because i dont look at my mother as friendly or supportive nor does she or did she ever smother me actually through a couple of talks i came to find out she made a conscious effort to make my childhood a hard one, constant verbal abuse (i was a husky child and honestly the majority of the insults i got about my weight came from her). When you have one parent that is supposed to be the person no matter what situation you should not feel reluctant to talk to them, growing up i had noone to talk to about my problems because no matter what it was she would always make me feel alot worse than i did in the first place, so it has gotten to the point now where the bulk of the conversations that me and my mother have are very trivial (weather, movies, current events not mother son conversations). I was asking because i have never had a girlfriend, i have had sex but it was with some prosmiscuious women who honestly i didnt have to talk to that much but when i comes to a female that i really want to get to know i get a bad feeling and never try to take that step. i was just wondering was this an effect of my bad relationship with my mother or shyness or something
The Observer
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I see. To be honest my friend only you know the answer to that and you wont find it here. People on here will either say yes or no but what it comes down to is how you see it and not the opinions of others who know nothing about you or your relationship with your mother. All I'm saying here is not to take the advice here blindly or believe every post.